dating 46 of the Best Ways to Get Over a Breakup

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Neil Sedaka said it best: "Breaking up is hard to do." Going through a break up is difficult, whether you just started dating your partner, or the two of you have been together for years. Getting over a break up requires patience, endurance, and logic. While it may be a painful experience, making the best of the situation isn’t as impossible as it may seem. Avoiding common pitfalls associated with a bad break up can spare you from a lot of unnecessary angst in life, and can even leave you feeling positive about the situation in the end. If you’re asking the question, “What are the best ways to get over a break up?” relax – you’re well on your way to finding out the best tips and tricks for getting over your ex.  

Recovering from a breakup is simply mind-over-matter for the most part, and matters of the heart often take some time to heal. Learning these practical steps to getting over a break up can make the transition of becoming single again much easier for you. There’s probably several suggestions listed here that you might not have ever thought about! Take a look at these suggestions and let the healing process begin! 

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Try Not to Get Caught in the M... is listed (or ranked) 1 on the list 46 of the Best Ways to Get Over a Breakup
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Try Not to Get Caught in the Moment


If he/she tries to convince you to see him/her, ask yourself honestly what the point would be. If you're reliving the past by seeing him/her, it's not hard to get caught up in the moment, and it will be harder to let go again. You may have to have some contact in order to deal with the practical aspects of things like moving out, signing papers, etc., but try to limit this to what's absolutely necessary, and then keep such calls/meetings short and civil.
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Understand Your Emotions


An emotion is a bit like someone knocking on your door to deliver a message. If you don't answer, it keeps knocking until you do open up. Opening the door to your feelings means learning to understand them. This can be hard, because heartbreak is complicated by other feelings: anger, fear and shame.
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Set Boundaries


It is important to set boundaries for yourself in the aftermath of a break up. If you're feeling tempted to call your ex, call a friend instead, or turn off your phone. Refrain from driving past their house, or frequenting places that the two of you used to go together. Be firm and clear with yourself about removing them from your life - that means no Facebook stalking, and no talking to mutual friends to "see how things are going." 
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Keep an Open Mind


Patterns may become clearer, and as your grieving begins to lessen, you will find it so much easier to understand valuable life lessons from the whole experience if you keep your mind open. No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself. Just because it didn't work out doesn't mean it wasn't a necessary part of your journey.
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Keep Your Distance


Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, break away completely from each other right after the break up. This means not seeing each other, not being around his/her family members, no phone calls, no e-mails, no text messages, no Facebook, and no IMs - not necessarily as a permanent measure, but until you feel that you can converse with him/her on a purely platonic level.
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Don't Go Back on Your Decision


If the break up was your decision, keep your reasons in mind. If you think too much about all the good times, it may distract you from the underlying problems that you two had. If the break up wasn't your idea, don't try to change your partner's mind - you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to b with you anyway.
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Stay Active


Exercise improves your mood and alleviates depression, and the distraction will help keep your mind off your situation. Go running outside, visit (or join) the gym, or just go for a walk. Move your body and clear your mind. 
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Think Through Everything Thoroughly, but Not Obsessively


Go ahead and mull it over for as long as you need - within reason. Consider WHY you two broke up. Even though sometimes it can feel like the break up is happening for no reason, there probably is one. Understand that you enjoyed being together for a while, but if the relationship was not what both you and your partner wanted for life, it would have ended eventually, no matter what.