culture Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With  

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List Rules This is not a regular peeves list, please only vote if you are an introvert

Hi introverts! (You non-introverts don't have to read this, go back to being cheerful or chatting in elevators or whatever). Speaking as one of you, I think I can ask you this because I feel your pain in those social situations that seem to cause normal people no distress whatsoever. What's the worst? The absolute worst thing about your daily grind? The thing that makes you want to curl up under your desk or flatten yourself into the wallpaper in the hopes you will suddenly gain the powers of a chameleon? Vote on the things that make you wish you could turn invisible on command... and add the things I've missed. Rerank them in the order of worst to least worst, if you feel strongly enough about it!
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Not Enough Alone Time is listed (or ranked) 1 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Not Enough Alone Time You neeeeed alone time to recharge.

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Parties Full of Strangers is listed (or ranked) 2 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Parties Full of Strangers Parties are a field of landmines: remembering names and casual conversation.

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Small Talk is listed (or ranked) 3 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Small Talk At the coffee machine or in an elevator, "How's it going?" are the most dreaded words in existence.

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Networking is listed (or ranked) 4 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Networking Nothing feels more agonizing than a forced conversation for the sake of selling yourself.

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Meeting New People is listed (or ranked) 5 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Meeting New People You probably won't remember their name AND have to make small talk because you don't know them well enough to have a real conversation.

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Keeping in Touch With People is listed (or ranked) 6 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Keeping in Touch With People

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Talking on the Phone For Any R... is listed (or ranked) 7 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Talking on the Phone For Any Reason What did introverts do before texting and email? Did we all just curl up and die?

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Group Participation is listed (or ranked) 8 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Group Participation Having to work in forced interactive groups. Team-building exercises might as well be called "Hell".

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Simultaneously Looking Forward... is listed (or ranked) 9 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Simultaneously Looking Forward to a Fun Event and Dreading It.

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People Who Can't Handle Silenc... is listed (or ranked) 10 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
People Who Can't Handle Silence Silence does not have to be filled all the time. Sometimes you can have a natural lull in the conversation and it's ok.

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People Trying to Talk To You W... is listed (or ranked) 11 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
People Trying to Talk To You When You Are Reading You brought the book specifically so no one would try to talk to you!

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Brief or Casual Encounters Tha... is listed (or ranked) 12 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Brief or Casual Encounters That Require Chit Chat It's small talk, but with your friends, not strangers. Turns out small talk is still extremely difficult even if it's with your closest friends.

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Crowds is listed (or ranked) 13 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Crowds You're not claustrophobic, but crowds mean casual interaction -- which is so hard.

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When People ask you "Are Y... is listed (or ranked) 14 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
When People ask you "Are You Ok" Just Because You're Quiet Just because I'm quiet doesn't mean there's something wrong.

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Being Told To 'Relax' and 'Be ... is listed (or ranked) 15 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Being Told To 'Relax' and 'Be More Social' I can't relax when I have to think up random words to say to fill the silence that other people can't handle.

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Needing Validation/praise but ... is listed (or ranked) 16 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Needing Validation/praise but Hating Attention

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Lack of attention when you are... is listed (or ranked) 17 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Lack of attention when you are talking

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Never Remembering Names is listed (or ranked) 18 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Never Remembering Names Not ever. It takes constant repetition and exposure to lock those names down.

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People Who Can't Tolerate the ... is listed (or ranked) 19 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
People Who Can't Tolerate the Fact That I Do Things Differently

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Last Minute Plan Changes That ... is listed (or ranked) 20 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Last Minute Plan Changes That Alter Your Whole Day

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When Your Friends Invite More ... is listed (or ranked) 21 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
When Your Friends Invite More People Over A small gathering of people you love talking to has just been turned into an "upcoming event".

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People Who Mistake Your Silenc... is listed (or ranked) 22 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
People Who Mistake Your Silence for Judging We are not aloof, and we are not judging -- most likely we are just scanning for the exit.

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Loud Noises is listed (or ranked) 23 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With

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Talking About Yourself is listed (or ranked) 24 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Talking About Yourself Having to constantly explain or rationalize your demeanor becomes a chore.

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People Who Are Late is listed (or ranked) 25 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
People Who Are Late When you are always on time, people being late means you have to endure awkwardly standing around.

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Upcoming Events is listed (or ranked) 26 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Upcoming Events A looming party/happy hour/celebration inspires dread and has you sweating.

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Dreading Upcoming Appointments is listed (or ranked) 27 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Dreading Upcoming Appointments

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That Feeling of Dread That Com... is listed (or ranked) 28 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
That Feeling of Dread That Comes Whenever You're Having Down Time and You See That Someone's Coming Over to Speak to You.

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That Your Normal Face Is Calle... is listed (or ranked) 29 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
That Your Normal Face Is Called Resting Bitch Face Because you don't smile when you are thoughtful...

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Needing Time to Consider Our A... is listed (or ranked) 30 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Needing Time to Consider Our Answer and Having the Thoughtful Pause Interpreted Negatively

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Having a Hard Time Caring Abou... is listed (or ranked) 31 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Having a Hard Time Caring About Things like Birthdays It's not that we don't love you, but we don't care about things like birthdays and can never remember them.

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People Who Crowd My Space... U... is listed (or ranked) 32 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
People Who Crowd My Space... Umm... Stop That People!!! Like in a Line a Grocery Store... or Meetings Where the Chairs Are So Close I Can't Breath...

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Being Interrupted Because You ... is listed (or ranked) 33 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Being Interrupted Because You Paused to Think

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People Who Insist on Talking a... is listed (or ranked) 34 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
People Who Insist on Talking after You've Signaled that Your Part in the Conversation Is Over. You make a non-committal, typically conversation-ending remark and they keep on talking.  You turn to leave, and they're still talking.  You say, 'Good-bye' or 'Goodnight' and THEY JUST WON'T STOP TALKING!

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People Who Mistake Your Silenc... is listed (or ranked) 35 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
People Who Mistake Your Silence As Being Anything Other Than Being Content

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Others accuse you of being &qu... is listed (or ranked) 36 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Others accuse you of being "negative" if you aren't immediately over the moon about every idea they throw at you.

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Being Interrupted When I'm Cle... is listed (or ranked) 37 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Being Interrupted When I'm Clearly Trying to Read.

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Meetings is listed (or ranked) 38 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With

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Being Called 'Shy' is listed (or ranked) 39 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Being Called 'Shy' Just because you don't want to engage in small talk doesn't mean you are afraid to.

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People You Barely Know Who Hug... is listed (or ranked) 40 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
People You Barely Know Who Hug. Or Put a Friendly Hand On Your Shoulder/Arm. Or Touch You in Any Way.

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Being Told You Are Too Sensiti... is listed (or ranked) 41 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Being Told You Are Too Sensitive.

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Awake is listed (or ranked) 42 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With

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Being Regarded As a Snob or Al... is listed (or ranked) 43 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Being Regarded As a Snob or Aloof Because You're Quiet.

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Seeing a Person You're Interes... is listed (or ranked) 44 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Seeing a Person You're Interested in and Immediately Picking Apart All of Your Flaws, Thereby Causing You to Avoid Said Person Altogether

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Being Told 'smile' is listed (or ranked) 45 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Being Told 'smile'

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Getting "Lost in Your Own... is listed (or ranked) 46 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Getting "Lost in Your Own Head" As You Over-think Anything.

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Trying to Ghost Out of a Party... is listed (or ranked) 47 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Trying to Ghost Out of a Party but Getting Caught On the Way Out.

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Surprise Parties. Actually, Su... is listed (or ranked) 48 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
Surprise Parties. Actually, Surprises of Just About Any Kind.

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People (extroverts) Who Don't ... is listed (or ranked) 49 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With
People (extroverts) Who Don't Learn What Being an Introvert Means.

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Mistake Mistake Mistake Mistak... is listed (or ranked) 50 on the list Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With