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Friending Too Soon
This is the worst and it can make you the worst.
You just went on your first date and had an amazing time. You desperately want to see this person again. And you're sure your date feels the same way. After all, you were talking and laughing for hours!
The minute your date is over, you whip out your smartphone and reach out to friend him or her on Facebook (or follow your date on Twitter). It’s the way of today’s social media-dominated world, right?
Wrong. It was just one date. No matter how magical and rainbow-filled it was for you, maybe your date was bored out of his or her mind. You don’t know if you’ll ever see this person again. If you weren't already friends on Facebook, there's no reason to take that step now. Plus, now you’ve just given yourself something else to obsess over: “Why hasn’t my friend request been accepted? Why is it taking so long? Did they even see it?!”
It’s even worse if your friend request is accepted, only for there to be no second date. Then you have to decide if and when to unfriend this person. Why put yourself in that situation?
If you’re not already Facebook buddies, friending can wait.
After a first date, you start to wonder if you're the only potential paramour in your date's life.
You start to see photos and comments on Facebook in a whole new light. When pictures are posted from a night when your date said they were too busy to see you, you start wondering just who the other people in those photos are. And why is there someone who always likes your date's statuses? Sure, they could just be friends, but why is this friend so involved in your date's life?
On another night, you text just to see if your date will respond.
And when there's no answer, you head to their apartment for a confrontation. An argument ensues, and the evening ends with a restraining order. All after one date--which doesn't even qualify as a relationship--and from some photos and/or comments that probably came from friends, co-workers, or relatives. Now your chances of a second date are completely trashed, thanks to your obsessive Facebook jealousy.
Try not to be this person.
Creepily Liking Old Facebook Photos
Jealousy isn’t the only reason not to scroll through all your first date’s old photos, though.
They may be public, but going through them and then liking a hot picture constitutes the first order of creepiness.
Generally, as a rule, don't "Like" attractive pictures of people you find attractive and eventually want to be with either romantically or sexually. That's what all the Creepy Instalikers are for. Your relationship with that person goes deeper, or at least it (hopefully) will. Leave compliments for when they dress nice for you in real life.
And while both men and women are guilty of Facebook stalking, there's a certain type of single guy who sometimes decides to like an old photo because he thinks the girl looks hot. And that, for some reason, anything will come of that action.
It never has and it never does.
I can’t pretend to truly understand the kind of delusional thinking that convinces people to do this, but it’s probably along the lines of “I just want her/him to know how good-looking I think he/she is. It’s a compliment.”
Liking that old photo you're drooling over isn't going to do you any favors.
Probably she knows she looks good in the picture--that’s why she put it on Facebook in the first place. And if she doesn't remember the photo, she's not going to thank you for digging through her profile to find the one shot where she's wearing a bikini and happens to have a lot of cleavage.
Basically, man or woman, if you like your date's old photos before you’re in a committed, long-lasting relationship, you’re only revealing yourself as a sad loser who will be single forever.
So please, please stay away from it.
Not Untagging Old Photos That Make You Look BadThe MistakeYou're going on a first date, and you're ready to make a good impression. So you get dressed up. You make sure your hair looks great. You're ready to find love!Except you haven't cleaned up your tagged photos on Facebook.What's the first thing that everyone does before a first date? Facebook stalking. If you don't clean up the detritus that's littering your Facebook profile, the drunken photos and inane comments that you've accumulated over the years are waiting right there for your date to see.No matter how well you shower, how closely you shave or how great you smell/look on that first date, you're going to be your Facebook pictures at the end of the night. Their favorable memory of you will be fueled largely by the visual representations you have on your Facebook page. So make them part of your strategy.No one wants to date a person with a set of dreadful toilet-centered selfies on her Facebook page, or someone who commented about how the movie Transformers changed his life. Untag the drunken photos and delete the misspelled rants now, before it's too late!
Going Too Far Via Status Update
You’ve decided to play it cool and not friend the girl or guy you just had a fabulous first date with. But you’re still excited about the date--so excited that you have to share your happiness on Facebook.
This mistake can consist of posting a status update saying that you just met the person you’re going to marry. Or you may make the classic mistake of changing your relationship status from "single" to "in a relationship."
You could even announce that now you understand the true meaning of love.
All of those steps are going way too far, because it was only one date.
There is no way that a first date equals you being in a relationship or finally knowing what it means to be in love. And even if you truly feel that your first date will be your husband or wife someday, you should still keep it to yourself, because Facebook updates are public! If your date sees your status change or update, there is no way they'll want to see you again. Keep it to yourself, at least for now.
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