A lot of sexually secure, liberal-minded, straight men have to adhere to insane standards that just aren't right for this day and age. So, here are ten things that are socially acceptable for heterosexual women to do, but not heterosexual men (in the general sense, of course). Both men and women CAN do most of these things, but the social implications are what often stop men from doing the things on this list. If only people were more open minded...
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Women Can Wear Men's Clothes To Work
First of all, men need more space in the bottom half of their wardrobe (i.e. the kind of space skirts or dresses would allow) than women. IT'S BASIC ANATOMY.
Given the history of horrific impracticalities of women’s fashion (some of which still linger to this very day) it’s easy to understand why women have fought for their rights to wear pants. They've had some hurdles, such as the preconception that a woman who wore men’s clothes was a lesbian or a (vaguely-insulting) "tomboy," but over time, it's become perfectly acceptable for a woman to wear pants, t-shirts, and even practical shoes.
Now what about the men? Not so much.
If a man wants to wear clothing specifically designed for a woman he’ll have to also wear the label of "transvestite," or at the very least, "cross-dresser." Of course, while much of the western world is increasingly comfortable with the idea of transvestitism and cross dressing, actually wearing high heels and a corset in public will nevertheless turn heads, and not in a positive way.
It's not that every man actually WANTS to wear women’s clothing, but there’s no denying it–being ABLE to do so could be liberating. I mean, have you ever worn a dress? Then you know how it compares to a pair of pants on a hot summer day, and I'm not the first to say, that THAT'S freedom.
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Women Can Dance Together
Dancing is a wonderful and highly personal form of self-expression. It feels good, it's great exercise and is even considered ultra-masculine in some non-western cultures.
Practically everyone dances at some point in their lives, at least when nobody is watching, but dancing in public is something that men are often uncomfortable with, even with a female partner.
If women think men are being ridiculous for not enjoying themselves in a group setting with members of the opposite sex, that’s nothing compared to the discomfort most men feel with dancing around other men.
Dancing with other men is not a socially acceptable practice, although nobody bats an eye when women dance together (at least, not disapprovingly). Hopefully this will change in the near future.
As with many of the items on this list, homophobia is often a factor in this case. But more than that, fear of dancing in general is an expression of social inadequacy and discomfort with one’s body and social standing.
Add to the mix close proximity to other men in an uninhibited display of self-expression, and you’ve got a powder keg of social anxiety that most men just aren’t comfortable with, even if they are being a little ridiculous about it.
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Women Can Call Each Other Attractive
Although women can be competitive amongst themselves, they are also allowed to be mutually supportive in ways that straight men usually cannot be publicly. This is due mostly to again, the insane amount of homophobia present in Western culture today.
Women are allowed to compliment each other’s looks, free from social awkwardness, often to explicit degrees. Admitting that other women have attractive clothes, personality traits, and features – even predominantly sexual features, like bitches and hips – is not exactly taboo.
Heterosexual men, however, are not generally "allowed" to say that other men look "sexy" in any context.
In fact, any compliment regarding a degree of physical attractiveness must usually be qualified out of social insecurity. "I can see why women go for him," for example, is reasonably acceptable. "Nice haircut," is vague enough to generally be fine.
A compliment such as, "Dude, sweet abs," might be allowed in certain contexts, usually in an exercise-centric environment. But, "Oh man, you look totally hot in that tank top"? Not socially acceptable. Not socially acceptable at all.
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Women Can Openly Own Sex Toys
How many guy's guys do you know that proudly own a Fleshlight?
For various reasons, women sometimes have more difficulty pleasuring themselves sexually than men do, whereas most men are content with using their hands, and perhaps a certain degree of lubricant.
Thus, women are often encouraged to employ sexual aids that provide steady vibration or even a faux phallus to stimulate themselves to orgasm without a partner should the need and/or desire arise. Straight men, on the other hand, are generally discouraged from owning sex toys for their own personal use. The typical fear is that a potential romantic partner, or even mere friends and associates, would consider a man needing a faux vagina (often modeled after the actual genitalia of a famous porn star) for masturbatory purposes to be either a sexual deviant, a pervert, or a pathetic loser.
Although women don't usually flaunt their sex toys in public, and would be at least a little embarrassed when the said toys make a surprise appearance at a party, most social circles – and potential romantic partners – are pretty forgiving towards women who own sex toys for their own personal enjoyment.
Seems like a double-standard, doesn’t it?
Yes, it does. And it is one of the worst ones on this list.