Stories about women who murder their husbands tend to capture the public's attention, and the tale of Amber Hilberling defenestrating her husband Josh is no exception. In June 2011, Amber pushed Josh from a 25th story window in their Tulsa apartment. The two had been married for a year, and their relationship was tumultuous from the start. With a long history of both substance and physical abuse, the couple was in the process of splitting when the tragedy occurred. To pile onto the disaster and sadness of the catastrophe, Amber took her life in jail several years after Josh's death, leaving the couple's son, Levi, parentless.
Was Josh's death a genuine mishap, or was it one of those killings that only looks like an accident? The facts about the murder of Amber Hilberling's husband made many question what truly happened in this Tulsa couple's troubling relationship.
Amber Claimed It Was Self Defense, But Her Story Has ChangedVideo: YouTube
In an interview with Dr. Phil post-conviction, Amber explained that she pushed her husband in self-defense. “He reached out and grabbed me. And I was pregnant. And he didn’t care,” Hilberling told Dr. Phil. She said that when she pushed him off of her, he fell to his death. "The window wasn’t supposed to happen," she explained. A neighbor reported that she heard Amber scream "No, no, no," directly before the incident. There were also running noises and then the sound of shattering glass.
Amber told her grandmother, however, that Josh was working on their television set when she pushed him, and the prosecution claims there were no signs of struggle in the apartment.
Josh Was In The Process Of Leaving Amber
Josh's father, Patrick Hilberling, said that Josh called him shortly before the murder and told him he was planning to leave. Josh told Patrick that he "couldn’t stop [Amber] from using drugs while pregnant, and he couldn’t watch her anymore." He wanted a divorce as well as custody of their unborn child.
Josh supposedly called his father to ask him for a ride, but Patrick couldn't get off work to pick him up. Amber says it "[broke her] heart to have him leave."
She Rejected A Five-Year Plea Deal And Was Sent To Prison For 25 YearsVideo: YouTube
Amber's Defense Attorney Had Never Prosecuted A Criminal Case
Amber said she chose her defense attorney, Jasen Elias, because he was a family friend of her parents, but he had never tried a criminal case before Amber's. Her parents tried to get Amber to fire him during the course of the trial, but Amber "didn’t have the heart to do that."
Because Amber, although only 19 years old at the time of the murder, was legally an adult, her parents couldn't make her fire Elias.