There comes a certain point where childish shenanigans and immature actions in your romantic life feel dumb to do and have done to you. For some who mature quickly, that point is middle school. For others, the game extends beyond high school, into college and beyond. They may even continue to treat their love life like an arcade well into their adult years, because that’s just how some people are. All you can do is recognize when someone is playing games with you, then you can decide for yourself whether you’re interested in participating or not. These are the terrible tomfooleries you’ll potentially run into if you date enough these days.
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Veiled social media communicationPosting song lyrics or quotes indirectly meant for someone on Facebook or Instagram is so much more difficult than speaking to them like a mature person, but people still do it. Once someone has indirectly communicated with you, it’s easy to respond the same way - then suddenly, you find yourself wondering if her friend would ask her if she likes you (but then you remember you're not in first grade anymore).Is this a stupid game?
- 693 VOTES
Searching for a label through the foggy vaguenessMany daters try to avoid the “What are we?” conversation, which can often lead to confusion on precisely what the relationship is. People don’t know what the level of commitment is, and after all these years, people still don’t know what “we’re talking” truly means. The uncertainty makes for a heck of a time searching for something definitive.Is this a stupid game?
- 788 VOTES
Does “Have fun with that” actually mean have fun, or are they mad at me right now?When you’re doing something separate from the person you’re dating like, say, a night out with friends, it’s not unusual for them to say “have fun.” However, as most of us know, what someone says and what they mean are sometimes two entirely different things. Perhaps they do actually hope that you enjoy the duration of your time doing whatever you’re doing, but don’t be surprised if they actually mean “I’m so angry at you and if you actually go I’m going to be cold and rude until you figure out that I don’t want you to have any of the fun.”Is this a stupid game?
- 8112 VOTES
Purposely losing the emotional raceWhen it comes to two people putting themselves out there, the ideal way that this happens is simultaneously, with both people naturally taking the plunge together. Unfortunately some people who’ve been wronged in the past or have whatever reasons for proceeding with caution will keep their walls up and leave it wholly on the other individual to open up and be responsible for closeness.Is this a stupid game?