There comes a certain point where childish shenanigans and immature actions in your romantic life feel dumb to do and have done to you. For some who mature quickly, that point is middle school. For others, the game extends beyond high school, into college and beyond. They may even continue to treat their love life like an arcade well into their adult years, because that’s just how some people are. All you can do is recognize when someone is playing games with you, then you can decide for yourself whether you’re interested in participating or not. These are the terrible tomfooleries you’ll potentially run into if you date enough these days.
The "purposefully taking longer to text back to mask interest" gameYes, sometimes when daters do nothing, they’re doing something. Texting is done so strategically these days and people aren’t above intentionally waiting to see if you’ll text first, or purposefully taking longer to respond to mask interest. It’s all silly, but “I’m gonna wait for her/him to text me first” is a phrase people frequently think and speak.Is this a stupid game?
Deciphering if they're playing hard to get or if they're just uninterestedThey look similar, but are complete opposites. People play hard to get, but it's almost impossible to tell if they're playing hard to get or if they're flat out uninterested. This is a game that’s usually played solo, and involves a great deal of driving yourself crazy trying to carefully analyze every last bit of interaction.Is this a stupid game?
Guessing what “I’m fine” actually meansWhen someone is being short or seems moody and you ask what’s wrong, “I’m fine” is the last response you want. It’s uncertain what “I’m fine” actually means, but what’s for certain is that they’re probably going to make you pry to find out.Is this a stupid game?
Should I be concerned or am I being paranoid?Because of vague anti-labels like “talking” instead of being "in a relationship," it becomes tricky to figure out what’s acceptable and what’s not – especially when you’re involved with a person who communicates in a particular way with other people that makes you uncertain of and uncomfortable with the situation. Some people do this because they enjoy being flirtatious with the masses and they might say it’s harmless, but you’ll be left trying to figure out if you should legitimately be worried, or if you’re just being jealous. The lack of a definitive label might make you feel as if you’re not in a position to inquire, which only builds on the discomfort and inspires your imagination to cook up unpleasant thoughts.Is this a stupid game?