20 People Ask The Internet If They're Right Or Wrong
Sometimes you find yourself in sticky situations that have a lot of gray areas in regards to who is right or wrong. It's difficult to understand the perspectives of other people at times, which is where the subreddit r/AmITheA**hole comes in. The posts become a forum for Redditors to give its author feedback on their actions from a neutral standpoint and answer that single remaining question: AITA? Here's some of the wildest tales from the subreddit; vote up the stories where the poster is the a**hole, and vote down the stories where the poster isn't.
- 158,399 VOTES
Taking My Girlfriend's Lasagna Home
My girlfriend and I are both college students. She lives in an apartment on her own and I live with my parents.
On Sunday, my girlfriend made homemade lasagna for our date night. She made everything from scratch, including the noodles. It was really good so after we finished I asked if I could take lasagna home for my family to try. She said yes. When I left that night, I took the tray of lasagna with me. My girlfriend didn't walk me out so she didn't see me take the tray.
On Monday, I got a text from my girlfriend asking where her lasagna was. I told her I had taken it home for my family. She said "I thought you were going to take SOME... not the whole thing. I spent most of my food budget for the week on it with the intention to eat leftovers for the rest of the week. Now I don't know what I'm going to eat." I felt bad and apologized but pointed out that I had asked her if I could take it home and she didn't tell me that I couldn't take the whole tray. She said it should have been obvious that I shouldn't take the whole thing since the tray was so big. To be fair to her, it was a really big tray (my family of 5 only just finished the tray yesterday after eating it for dinner both nights) but I don't think the size of the tray makes it obvious that I shouldn't take it.
Monday night and last night, my girlfriend complained that she had to eat instant noodles for dinner so that she wouldn't blow her food budget. Today, she is asking me if I can buy her a sandwich since I took her leftovers for the week. It sucks that she spent her food budget on the lasagna but I think this is her fault for not being clear that I shouldn't take the whole thing. I don't think she is justified in asking me to buy her lunch because of it. She called me an a**hole for not being willing to help her out.
Am I the a**hole?
- 255,634 VOTES
Thinking Formula Should Come Out Of My Wife's Budget
From a former Redditor:
She has been breastfeeding for 6 months since the baby was born and now wants to switch to formula. She makes plenty of milk and everything, she just says she “feels done.” I think if she wants to stop for basically no reason then the money for formula should come out of her personal spending money because she is the one making that decision. She says I’m an a**hole and it should come from the family/grocery budget (which is already tight) even though I don’t have a say.
Am I the a**hole?
- 353,694 VOTES
Firing An Employee After His Parents Passed
From /u/ Resident_Occasion :
I'm the VP of Sales at a software company and one of our sales development reps parents passed away at the beginning of April, sadly they were involved in a car collision and both lost their lives. Now the employee in question in very young 22-year-old guy and has been with us for about 10 months now. He's a great employee and we were thinking about promotions in the next ~six months for him. His job is a high paying one for a new grad, about ~90k with commission and base so we expect a lot from this position. Because of the mishap we let him take a 1 month paid leave of absence from work and he's returned a few weeks ago and his performance is severely lacking. He's super unmotivated, not cold calling, out reaching to prospects for the last 2-3 weeks enough since he's come back. Our whole mgmt team has noticed this and we decided to let him go because we feel like he'd need months and months to be able to produce again and we can't just wait that long.
We called him into a meeting on Friday afternoon and gave him the bad news, he was very calm and rude about it. Told us to go f*ck ourselves and got up and went to his desk grabbed his few things and left. I thought this was very very unprofessional and extremely rude.
I told my boyfriend about all of this and he said myself and my management team are a bunch of a**es and pr*cks with no hearts.
Am I the a**hole for firing him?
- 451,627 VOTES
Asking My Ex's Daughter To Stop Calling Me "Dad"
From a former Redditor:
I was with my ex for seven years. At the time she had a 2-year-old, and when we split, her daughter was 9-years-old. She called me dad pretty quickly, plus we all lived together. I thought we'd become a family proper through marriage eventually but obviously things didn't pan out and we split. It was amicable and we're still friends.
Her daughter is 14 now and still calls me dad. My ex hasn't started dating again but I'm engaged to my soon-to-be-wife. We all get along but my fiancee doesn't like that kiddo calls me dad. I'm not her dad, biologically or otherwise, but I was a father figure for seven years (and even beyond this, I still kept involved in her life).
My fiancee wants me to put the kibosh on this because it makes her uncomfortable. We want to start a family of our own soon and my fiancee wants my undivided attention on our child. I can see her point although I'm indifferent to the whole dad situation: if she calls me dad, whatever, but I must relent to my fiancee's wishes because I'm not staunchly opposed to her thoughts or anything.
I'm going to have a sitdown with my ex and her daughter and split ties to focus on my own family. But would I be the a**hole?
- 554,016 VOTES
Throwing My Wife's Cooking In The Trash And Yelling At Her
My wife (29) and I (32) share cooking responsibilities about 50/50. We are childless so we just cook for ourselves.
We have a system where we try to plan out our dinners a few days in advance. We both work full time and get off around 4:30, so it’s important for us to know what we want.
Late last week I had gotten somewhat sick with a stomach virus and was still recovering. However, the day I got really nauseated I ate a salad with a small burger and threw everything up. You know when you eat something while nauseous and throw it up, you kind of turn against it? Well that’s what happened.
So I warned my wife on Saturday: this week I want no salad or burgers. She said ok. Today we get home from work, I ask what we are eating since we both were indecisive. She said she didn’t know but would get it started. I told her I would go take a shower and would be down.
As soon as I exit the shower, I smell meat cooking. I go down and she literally made hamburgers. I told her “hey, I thought we agreed no burgers for awhile after I got sick?” She replied “well there isn’t anything else to eat, so this is what we are having. Besides you aren’t sick anymore”.
I sat in stunned silence for the remainder of the cooking and when she gave me the plate, I got up and threw it in the garbage and we got into a spat. I then yelled “you did the exact f*cking opposite of what I said not to do” and I kicked the trash can and then told her I was leaving to go out to eat. I then slammed the door and sped off.
She texted me calling me rude. I ignored her and enjoyed my meal outside.
Was I an a**hole for doing this?
- 648,821 VOTES
Refusing To Pay At A Fine Dining Restaurant
So my girlfriend (she's 27 and I'm 28) wants to go to this fancy new restaurant in the city that she’s heard good things about. We get there and it seems like one of those hipster places but whatever, I’m hungry.
I look at the menu and this place is crazy expensive - like every dish is more than $15-$20 and half the ingredients I’ve never heard of. I order the bison steak ($26) and my girlfriend orders some weird pasta, noki [sic] I think ($18). Very important, these were listed as ENTREES on the menu. Mind you with drinks plus tip this is going to come out to over $60 which is already ridiculous for dinner for two people.
So anyway we order as we are starving. My steak arrives and I am shocked, it’s like 6 small pieces of sliced steak with some weird sauce on the side and a small handful of salad. I joke to the waiter “where’s the rest of my steak?” and he explains they serve smaller portions at this restaurant because they focus on getting the highest quality ingredients. I don’t care if this bison was blessed by the pope himself it’s absurd to charge that much for such a small bit of steak, it’s highway robbery. When I go to restaurants I expect an entree to fill me up and be enough for leftovers.
I’m complaining to my girlfriend and she’s getting annoyed with me. Similar situation with her pasta it was like maybe 12 pieces of noki [sic] dressed up with some frou frou bullsh*t. Granted the food was pretty good but I can not get over how tiny these portions are. I’m a big guy and I like to eat, what can I say.
When the waiter comes back I inform him we will not be paying for our meal, and that they are falsely advertising entrees that barely qualify as a light snack. My girlfriend is begging me to stop but that’s where we’re different, I don’t let businesses push me around and rip me off.
A manager comes and apologizes but asks us to leave. I don’t end up paying as they realized I called them out on their bullsh*t. My girlfriend is silent the entire time on the way back. I'm still hungry so I drive through McDonald’s and get a burger, and when I did that she asked to be dropped off at her place. It’s now the next day and I’m starting to think I didn’t handle the situation as well as I could have (I could have probably just asked for a discount). My girlfriend hasn’t responded to my texts so now I’m starting to think I’m an a**hole.
Am I the a**hole?