Sometimes you find yourself in sticky situations that have a lot of gray areas in regards to who is right or wrong. It's difficult to understand the perspectives of other people at times, which is where the subreddit r/AmITheA**hole comes in. The posts become a forum for Redditors to give its author feedback on their actions from a neutral standpoint and answer that single remaining question: AITA? Here's some of the wildest tales from the subreddit; vote up the stories where the poster is the a**hole, and vote down the stories where the poster isn't.
Throwing My Wife's Cooking In The Trash And Yelling At Her
My wife (29) and I (32) share cooking responsibilities about 50/50. We are childless so we just cook for ourselves.
We have a system where we try to plan out our dinners a few days in advance. We both work full time and get off around 4:30, so it’s important for us to know what we want.
Late last week I had gotten somewhat sick with a stomach virus and was still recovering. However, the day I got really nauseated I ate a salad with a small burger and threw everything up. You know when you eat something while nauseous and throw it up, you kind of turn against it? Well that’s what happened.
So I warned my wife on Saturday: this week I want no salad or burgers. She said ok. Today we get home from work, I ask what we are eating since we both were indecisive. She said she didn’t know but would get it started. I told her I would go take a shower and would be down.
As soon as I exit the shower, I smell meat cooking. I go down and she literally made hamburgers. I told her “hey, I thought we agreed no burgers for awhile after I got sick?” She replied “well there isn’t anything else to eat, so this is what we are having. Besides you aren’t sick anymore”.
I sat in stunned silence for the remainder of the cooking and when she gave me the plate, I got up and threw it in the garbage and we got into a spat. I then yelled “you did the exact f*cking opposite of what I said not to do” and I kicked the trash can and then told her I was leaving to go out to eat. I then slammed the door and sped off.
She texted me calling me rude. I ignored her and enjoyed my meal outside.
Was I an a**hole for doing this?Are they the a**hole?
Refusing To Pay At A Fine Dining Restaurant
So my girlfriend (she's 27 and I'm 28) wants to go to this fancy new restaurant in the city that she’s heard good things about. We get there and it seems like one of those hipster places but whatever, I’m hungry.
I look at the menu and this place is crazy expensive - like every dish is more than $15-$20 and half the ingredients I’ve never heard of. I order the bison steak ($26) and my girlfriend orders some weird pasta, noki [sic] I think ($18). Very important, these were listed as ENTREES on the menu. Mind you with drinks plus tip this is going to come out to over $60 which is already ridiculous for dinner for two people.
So anyway we order as we are starving. My steak arrives and I am shocked, it’s like 6 small pieces of sliced steak with some weird sauce on the side and a small handful of salad. I joke to the waiter “where’s the rest of my steak?” and he explains they serve smaller portions at this restaurant because they focus on getting the highest quality ingredients. I don’t care if this bison was blessed by the pope himself it’s absurd to charge that much for such a small bit of steak, it’s highway robbery. When I go to restaurants I expect an entree to fill me up and be enough for leftovers.
I’m complaining to my girlfriend and she’s getting annoyed with me. Similar situation with her pasta it was like maybe 12 pieces of noki [sic] dressed up with some frou frou bullsh*t. Granted the food was pretty good but I can not get over how tiny these portions are. I’m a big guy and I like to eat, what can I say.
When the waiter comes back I inform him we will not be paying for our meal, and that they are falsely advertising entrees that barely qualify as a light snack. My girlfriend is begging me to stop but that’s where we’re different, I don’t let businesses push me around and rip me off.
A manager comes and apologizes but asks us to leave. I don’t end up paying as they realized I called them out on their bullsh*t. My girlfriend is silent the entire time on the way back. I'm still hungry so I drive through McDonald’s and get a burger, and when I did that she asked to be dropped off at her place. It’s now the next day and I’m starting to think I didn’t handle the situation as well as I could have (I could have probably just asked for a discount). My girlfriend hasn’t responded to my texts so now I’m starting to think I’m an a**hole.
Am I the a**hole?Are they the a**hole?
Telling A Cashier That A Girl's Credit Card Wasn't Hers
I was in a higher end department store today (rhymes with loomingtales) and happened to end up next to two teenage aged girls while shopping. One of the girls had picked out a pair of VERY expensive boots and they were both fawning over them. Second girl must have looked at price tag and asks boots girl if she’s really gonna spend that much on boots. Girl with boots says something along the lines of “it’s fine I have my dads credit card I’m not paying ” which instantly caught my attention because THATS NOT HER CARD. I’ve told my son multiple times he’s never allowed to use my card so I’m interested to see how this girl thinks she’s going to get away with fraud but had split up from the girls at this point because they had found something else.
We end up at the same register (me behind) and I see her total hit well over four digits. The girl is about to swipe her card when I decide that I can’t let her get away with something like this and someone has to parent this kid if no one else will. I tell cashier that isn’t her card but her father’s and I’m not sure she has permission. Girl and friend turn and glare at me giving me possibly the dirtiest look I’ve ever seen. I swear this girl was going to throw a tantrum right there, I don’t think she was ever told no.
Girl tells cashier her father gave her the card to shop with because it’s the stores credit card and it gives him the points. Now that I’ve pointed out it wasn’t hers cashier tells her she can’t use that card. Girl tries to show ID to prove they have the same last name ( yeah that will help) and I tell her it’s still fraud. Girl says it’s not fraud because she has permission and tells me to mind my own business. I tell her that it is my business that she’s doing something illegal she needs to pay with her own card or I call the cops. Girl is pissed now and people are glaring at me. She uses her own card and leaves crying. Cashier looks mad at me and I tell my husband when I get home only for him to agree I was in the wrong.
Am I the a**hole for telling the cashier?Are they the a**hole?
Not Letting Daughter Introduce Her African American BF To Grandparents
Let me just preface this by saying this: I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM WITH INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS. Now that the air is clear, let me continue.
My daughter (Anna) has recently started to date an African American man (Jamal). While I'm not exactly what you would refer to as "liberal", he's a nice young man and as long as my daughter is happy, I'm happy. The problem is Anna is rather naive about the community she lives in. While her friends are quite content to see a relationship like hers, more than a few tongues are wagging in the community and a few people have privately expressed their concern to me. As I said, I have no problem with mixed relationships and I've set them straight, but I am painfully aware of how these matters are viewed by certain segments of the population.
My parents are planning to come and stay with us for a week and Anna expressed a desire to introduce Jamal to them now that things were getting more serious between them. I told her on no uncertain terms that this wasn't going to happen. I may have no problem with Jamal, but they absolutely will, and even when the relationship ends they won't forget it. They might even go as far as to cut her off entirely. Anna was extremely upset by this and implied I was a racist and more concerned with what my parents think than how she feels.
As I said, I know my parents. They simply aren't okay with mixed relationships and if Anna were to bring Jamal over even as a friend, they would be furious both at her and me.
Anna is currently staying with Jamal and doesn't want to speak with me right now. My wife stands by me given she knows very well how my parents are (they had a problem with her for months over the length of the skirt she wore when I introduced her to them, for Christ's sake), but a close friend I confided in told me that I have behaved like an a** and that I needed to focus more on my daughter than pleasing my parents.
No advice needed, but I have to know. Have I been an a**hole?Are they the a**hole?