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Bisexuals Describe Differences of Dating Guys and Girls

Updated September 30, 2019 14.2k votes 3.8k voters 265.7k views15 items

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Every comedian has a bit about how men and women are different, but only bisexuals (people who are attracted to both men and women) truly know the differences between the genders when it comes to having a relationship. This collection of the differences between men and women in dating was sourced from AskReddit, one of the best places to learn about a group of people, from that specific group. Whether you’re gay, straight, or bi, you’ll definitely want to keep reading to find out what the big difference between dating girls and guys is. And just so you know, it doesn’t have anything to do with body hair.

When it comes to relationships, you’d think it wouldn’t matter which gender you were pairing up with, and that most people are basically the same. Wrong. Careening back and forth between guys and girls can be fun, but it can also be a lot of work. There are all sorts of differences between going out with girls and guys, and the most important distinctions just might surprise you. Obviously the sex is completely different, but who do you think is clingier? And which gender do you think is the better kisser? For answers to these questions, and more, check out this list of the differences between girlfriends and boyfriends sourced from some helpful bisexuals who posted in AskReddit.

If you’re bisexual, vote up the biggest differences you think there are between dating guys and dating girls!

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    Men are more emotionally confusing.

    "Lesbian for 15 years, bisexual for the last year. Generally speaking:

    Dating women:

    Soft kisses, soft hugs, soft everything. Sex is more of a leisurely stroll through a park.Way easier to fall in love. The intimacy is intense when you're both speaking the same emotional language. Oddly enough, it's harder to have that first connection because women can be really passive and not show they're interested. PMSx2 is just as fun as it sounds. More defensive, less cooperative.

    Dating men:

    Hard kisses, hard hugs, hard everything. Sex is more of a roller coaster. Figuring out what a guy wants emotionally when even he doesn't want to admit/knows is nearly impossible without sabotaging the whole thing by seeming too 'needy'. Figuring out what a guy wants physically is wonderfully easy. Less defensive, more cooperative."

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  • 6

    There's a difference between how you do your makeup for a girl and how you do it for a guy.

    "Hi there, bisexual woman here.

    -With women, everyone will assume you're just best friends.

    -Women tend to be more responsive to the subtleties in your body language during sex.

    -With women, you really have to figure out your own relationship roles, since there's no male-female roles that are preassigned. It was really weird when I dated a guy after dating a girl, because he assumed I would want to fill traditional roles. After ignoring those roles completely with my girlfriend, it was weird.

    -With my girlfriends, I don't feel the need to make sure my legs are 100% hairless. Because we get it, shaving every day is stupid.

    -Wearing makeup for my boyfriend means highlighting my best features to look hot. Wearing makeup for my girlfriend means trying new things, because she'll notice the more subtle things and appreciate the wilder stuff."

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  • 7

    There's less pressure when dating a guy.

    "I'm a bi guy, I've dated both guys and girls, though at this point I've realized that I'm just overall much happier with women. I can't connect with guys on an emotional or sexual level like I can with women.

    Guys give much, much better [BJs].

    Girls are much, much better kissers...

    There's less pressure (real or imagined) to last longer in bed...

    Less focus on foreplay with guys.

    There's less pressure (real or imagined) to provide for a guy. In relationships with women I've usually split things evenly as well, but there's more of a natural inclination to pay for sh*t.

    There's no designated bug killer when dating guys.

    When on dates with another man, there's a little bit of self-consciousness in regards to little things like holding hands. We'd still do it anyway, but it's otherizing a bit. Society has progressed a lot, but not completely.

    Flirting with girls turns me on much more than flirting with guys.

    I've found guys to be less sensitive to my emotional needs than women, but that could partially just be an individual difference with the people I've dated."

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  • 8

    Men like to talk about themselves, women like to talk about other people.

    "My experience comes as someone who is not much of a talker at all (to the point that it can frustrate people around me at times) but who is a hell of a listener. Even though the stereotype is that women are the big talkers, I've found that both genders love to talk when they feel they are really being listened to. The main difference I've found is that men love to talk about themselves and women love to talk about other people. I'm not sure one is worse/better than the other... men can pretty egotistical, but women can be quite nosy/ cruel and critical of others. This is actually the biggest difference I've consistently observed."
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