Bisexuals Describe Differences of Dating Guys and Girls

Voting Rules
Only vote if you're bisexual - vote up the biggest difference you think there is between dating guys and dating girls.

Every comedian has a bit about how men and women are different, but only bisexuals (people who are attracted to both men and women) truly know the differences between the genders when it comes to having a relationship. This collection of the differences between men and women in dating was sourced from AskReddit, one of the best places to learn about a group of people, from that specific group. Whether you’re gay, straight, or bi, you’ll definitely want to keep reading to find out what the big difference between dating girls and guys is. And just so you know, it doesn’t have anything to do with body hair.

When it comes to relationships, you’d think it wouldn’t matter which gender you were pairing up with, and that most people are basically the same. Wrong. Careening back and forth between guys and girls can be fun, but it can also be a lot of work. There are all sorts of differences between going out with girls and guys, and the most important distinctions just might surprise you. Obviously the sex is completely different, but who do you think is clingier? And which gender do you think is the better kisser? For answers to these questions, and more, check out this list of the differences between girlfriends and boyfriends sourced from some helpful bisexuals who posted in AskReddit.

If you’re bisexual, vote up the biggest differences you think there are between dating guys and dating girls!

  • 1
    1,489 VOTES

    Women are squishier.

    "Men are harder.

    No seriously. Women tend to be soft and squishy, and men tend to have less give.

    You could never tell just by looking, I mean they both seem to have the same amount of fat.
    But its a huge and consistent difference.

    Definitely caught me off guard."

    1,489 votes
  • 2
    1,243 VOTES

    It's easier to find guys to date.

    "This probably isn't surprising, but it's a lot easier to find men to date as a female bisexual. With straight dudes, being bi is a more or less a plus (though that also comes with it's own problems), with lesbians being bi is a pretty big minus. I haven't dated another bi person, though, hopefully they'd be more chill with it than the rest!"
    1,243 votes
  • 3
    1,003 VOTES

    People treat you differently when you switch it up.

    "It wasn't so much about difference between the people I was dating - I'm willing to chalk that up to the individuals, rather than their genitalia - but I would say that people who knew me with a boyfriend treated me differently than they did when I had a girlfriend, and vice versa. 

    It's sort of like people would have been fine with me being straight and fine with me being a lesbian, but watching me switch from men to women and back again caused a sort of cognitive disconnect. 

    (I'd like to point out that I was never treated badly as a result of this. It was always just interesting to watch people do a double take when they met my new partner, especially because several of them have had gender-neutral names.)"

    1,003 votes
  • 4
    1,459 VOTES

    Women are better kissers.

    "I'm female. The way girls kiss is staggeringly different from the way men kiss. I prefer to date men in terms of sexual compatibility, but Christ are women better kissers. Women are softer and more responsive to physical cues, where as men tend to be like, 'This is what I've done before and no one ever said it sucked so I'll keep doing it!'"

    1,459 votes
  • 5
    864 VOTES

    Men are more emotionally confusing.

    "Lesbian for 15 years, bisexual for the last year. Generally speaking:

    Dating women:

    Soft kisses, soft hugs, soft everything. Sex is more of a leisurely stroll through a park.Way easier to fall in love. The intimacy is intense when you're both speaking the same emotional language. Oddly enough, it's harder to have that first connection because women can be really passive and not show they're interested. PMSx2 is just as fun as it sounds. More defensive, less cooperative.

    Dating men:

    Hard kisses, hard hugs, hard everything. Sex is more of a roller coaster. Figuring out what a guy wants emotionally when even he doesn't want to admit/knows is nearly impossible without sabotaging the whole thing by seeming too 'needy'. Figuring out what a guy wants physically is wonderfully easy. Less defensive, more cooperative."

    864 votes
  • 6
    635 VOTES

    There's a difference between how you do your makeup for a girl and how you do it for a guy.

    "Hi there, bisexual woman here.

    -With women, everyone will assume you're just best friends.

    -Women tend to be more responsive to the subtleties in your body language during sex.

    -With women, you really have to figure out your own relationship roles, since there's no male-female roles that are preassigned. It was really weird when I dated a guy after dating a girl, because he assumed I would want to fill traditional roles. After ignoring those roles completely with my girlfriend, it was weird.

    -With my girlfriends, I don't feel the need to make sure my legs are 100% hairless. Because we get it, shaving every day is stupid.

    -Wearing makeup for my boyfriend means highlighting my best features to look hot. Wearing makeup for my girlfriend means trying new things, because she'll notice the more subtle things and appreciate the wilder stuff."

    635 votes