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A Former Bridesmaid Wants To Know If She's A Jerk For Suing An Entitled Bride (Spoiler: She's Not)

August 18, 2021 45k views9 items

Over the subreddit Am I The A**hole?, a woman turns to the internet for their opinion on a little wedding drama. Redditor u/Own-Ingenuity-8648 was all set to be a bridesmaid in her friend’s lavish wedding when tragedy struck and due to health reasons, she began losing her hair. A devastating blow to any person, u/Own-Ingenuity-8648 made the brave decision to cut her hair.

The bride was less than thrilled…

Here is the story:

 

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  • A Woman Was A Best Friend’s Bridesmaid And Had Already Spent $700 Before Tragedy Struck

    “For my friend’s three-day wedding, I had to buy three different dresses (including alterations, and specific shoes which totaled over $700. She also wanted specific hair styles for each day.

    Unfortunately, starting in March, my hair started to deteriorate. Due to health reasons my hair was falling out in chunks.

    In May, I made the difficult decision to cut my hair. I told the bride about my decision two weeks before the wedding and she didn’t say anything bad.

    The following week, she came over to my house and when she was about to leave, she brought up that she was concerned about my haircut and I told her it would look good even though I wouldn’t be uniform with the other bridesmaids."

    • The Bride Was Not Very Understanding And Kicked Out The Ailing Bridesmaid

      ”The following day I received this message:"

      After our recent conversations, I’d like to remind you of my boundaries: I’ve been very accommodating and graceful, but I can’t allow you to disrespect me. 

      As you know, my wedding has been something I’ve dreamt of for many years. (Husband) and I have invested a lot of money into the video and photos of this day and as we reflect on this day in the further we want to see our vision reflected in the memories. Since I asked each of you to be bridesmaid in 2019, I’ve been very clearly and very communicative in my request. 

      The timing of your decision to cut your hair and not income in advance is very upsetting to me. I would have felt respected if you had communicated with me more than a week prior to the wedding, so we could have worked together to find a collaborative solution. 

      Your inconsistencies have concerned me and while I sympathize with your health concerns, I’m not willing to compromise my vision to accommodate you (or anyone else) when you have informed me in advance and we could have found a better solution. Since this something you can no longer fully commit to, I need you to please step down from participating in my wedding.

      • The Woman Was Deeply Offended And Hurt By The Entitled Bride

        "I was told I was inconsistent and selfish after I spent the past two weeks helping her plan the wedding shower. I worked with another bridesmaid to surprise her with a bridal shower after our bachelorette trip had to be cancelled. I spent HOURS helping her out with wedding details. When she asked me to help her tone up before the wedding, I sent her a personalized work out program and even went with her to the gym to show her the ropes."

        • Because Of The Out-Of-Pocket Costs, The Woman Opted To Take The Bride To Court

          "This was three days before the wedding. I immediately sent her and her husband an invoice asking them to reimburse for the dresses and shoes. Keeping in mind that one of the dresses is still in her possession even though I paid for it. 

          Neither of them replied and so I decided to take it the court.

          When I agreed to be her bridesmaid, I was more than willing to oblige with what she asked even if at times it was a lot of time and money. 

          So am I the a**hole for taking her to court because she kicked me out for cutting my hair?"