People Reveal Secrets About Their SO They Learned After Years Of Dating That Changed Everything 

Stefanie Hammond
Updated June 24, 2019 246.7k views 21 items

Relationships are built on trust, but what happens when it turns out you can’t trust the person you’re with? What if you discovered an unbelievable secret so terrible you couldn’t even continue the relationship? These Redditors share the most horrible and heart-wrenching secrets their significant others kept from them - from undisclosed children to clandestine weddings to other people. These stories will make you think twice about the person you’re sleeping next to.

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He Tried To Frame His Wife For Murder

From Redditor /u/1ofZuulsMinions:

That my husband wanted to start fires and kill police officers, and was planning on framing me for it so his girlfriend could move in while I did his time in prison for him.

He Was Overbearing During Pregnancy And Completely Absent As A Father

From Redditor /u/rusty0123:

When I had my first child. The pregnancy wasn't a surprise or an accident. We talked and planned. He got a little overbearing during the pregnancy, like insisting on breastfeeding without even discussing it with me. I put it down to new dad nerves, not knowing any better. 

Turns out that was only the tip of the iceberg. He believed that children were completely and totally a wife's responsibility. He wouldn't change a diaper. He wouldn't pick up the baby when it cried. No way would he get up in the middle of the night. He expected me to work a full-time job, plus do all the childcare. 

At that point, I was confused and appalled but I told myself he just needed time to adjust. 

I realized how delusional I was when the baby got sick while he was on a fishing trip. The doctors thought baby had meningitis. So not just sick, but life-threatening sick. I called and asked him to come home. He refused. He'd paid for two more days of fishing. He didn't want to lose the money.

This Man Suspects He Was A Victim Of Gaslighting

From Redditor /u/deruvoo:

She would lie about tiny, inconsequential things. Made me question my own perception of truth and self-instinct. Eventually caught her in a lie, and she denied even when presented with full proof. It wasn't something huge, but it was something that opened my eyes a little. My friend swears I was being gaslighted.

Her Husband Was Addicted To Meth

From Redditor /u/Misanthrope_penguin:

That he was doing meth up until after our first son was born. Found this out after we were divorced though.