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Seemingly Nice Guy Fred Armisen Basically Gaslights Every Woman He Dates

Updated March 14, 2019 303.4k views9 items

Fred Armisen is the type of offbeat talent comedy nerds love. He made a splash on Saturday Night Live before branching out with Portlandia, a sketch show beloved by the hipster set. But humor isn't the only thing he's gained a reputation for over the years, and there are lots of dark Fred Armisen stories floating around.

Many creepy facts about Fred Armisen detail his supposedly awful relationships with women. His ex-wife Elisabeth Moss described their short-lived marriage as "traumatic," and another former partner painted a picture of him entitled Portrait of a Sociopath. Armisen himself has admitted that he's no picnic to be with.

Does Fred Armisen gaslight women? It's hard to know for sure from the outside of his apparently tumultuous relationships. But there's no denying how off-putting his behavior seems in these stories.

  • He Said He Used Passive Aggression To End Relationships

    Speaking with Howard Stern in 2013, Armisen said he attempts to end relationships by making the other person hate him:

    [It's] awful... you sort of withdraw and you sort of get into all the things you think make you weird, like "I'm really into playing XBOX... [or my] record collection." You sort of disappear into the things that you think are just your hobbies.

    He's also admitted that he treats "romantic relationships in a cold way."

  • Photo: Peabody Awards / Wikimedia Commons / CC BY 2.0

    He's Open About His Infidelity

    Armisen is candid about what he believes causes some of the issues in his romantic partnerships, as he explained on WTF with Marc Maron:

    It’s like cheating and infidelity. I’m neither ashamed or proud of it. It’s just something that happens in my life... This struggle that I have [sex addiction], I don’t have a choice. It could be a lot worse. I could be dead.

  • Photo: Peabody Awards / Wikimedia Commons / CC BY 2.0

    He Compared His Attitude In Relationships To Amnesia

    On an episode of WTF with Marc Maron in 2016, Armisen said he tends to get caught up in the fantasy of relationships. Then, one day, the real world catches up:

    I have a problem with intimacy, where all of a sudden, there’s a real person there... something happens in me. It’s almost like an amnesia. It’s almost like waking up and going, "Where am I? Who is this person? Why is this person looking at me directly in the eye and having a conversation with me?"

  • Photo: JD Lasica / Wikimedia Commons / CC BY 2.0

    He Said He 'Probably' Felt Entitled To More Women

    Armisen got frank with Howard Stern during a 2013 interview. Armisen described how he tended to get freaked out in relationships and would back away.

    "Do you feel entitled to more women?" Stern asked him.

    "I don't want to admit that out loud to myself, but that probably is it," Armisen answered.