15 People Share Their Ex's Red Flags They Shouldn't Have Ignored

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Vote up the red flags you'll be keeping an eye out for in a partner.

Red flags. Red flags everywhere. They're strangely easy to miss, especially when you're smitten! If you passed over the ones in your ex's dating profile and started dating them, hopefully you noticed the red flags they waved in person. If you didn't, then check out these red flags to look out for the next time you find yourself in a relationship. And remember to vote up the biggest ex red flags.


  • 1
    17 VOTES

    They Yelled And Cursed At Their Mom

    From a former Redditor

    The way he spoke to his mother was abhorrent, huge red flag. He consistently snapped at her for no reason. She asked for help fixing her computer (she's in her 60's and not tech savvy) and at some point he got so upset he called her a "f*cking idiot".

    17 votes
  • 2
    16 VOTES

    They Put Their Hand Over Their Partner's Mouth So They'd Stop Talking

    From Redditor u/HappyGiraffe:

    He physically put his hand over my mouth at dinner with my parents because the joke I was telling "wasn't funny."

    My mom was furious. She put her fork and knife on the table, and said to him, “Don't you ever put your hands on my daughter like that again, or even try to silence her.”

    16 votes
  • 3
    14 VOTES

    They Constantly Talked About Themself

    From Redditor u/Jhatesjazz:

    About a month into our relationship she was on the phone with a friend of hers. I had noticed she tended to use the word "I" a lot more than a normal person would. I decided to count how many times she said "I" in the five [minutes] she was on the phone with her friend (it was 83).

    I found it mildly curious, but didn't think too much more about it, but in good time she became one of the most self-centered and self-obsessed people I know.

    14 votes
  • 4
    11 VOTES

    They Would Have Public Temper Tantrums

    From a former Redditor

    He would have temper tantrums (he is an adult) where he would flip out over nothing, all the time, and I would take the brunt of it. It became impossible to do anything (go to the store, see a movie, anything!) without worrying that he would fly off the handle and yell at someone (or me).

    11 votes
  • 5
    10 VOTES

    They Admitted They Would Dump Their Partner If They Lost Their Hair

    From Redditor u/susieeQT:

    He told me that if I ever got cancer and the chemotherapy made me lose my hair, he would dump me because “bald girls are disgusting.” This was after we'd been together for almost a year. He would also tell me what I could and couldn't wear, even if I wasn't planning to see him that day. He'd yell at me if I wore something on the "unapproved" list. It's sad that these things, along with quite a few other obvious "red flags," didn't make me realize what a jerk he was until after the relationship ended.

    10 votes
  • 6
    10 VOTES

    They Didn't Put As Much Effort Into Their Relationship As Their Partner Did

    From a Redditor:

    When you give more of yourself to someone than they give themselves to you.

    When I first met one of my exes, we initially really hit it off. We had a great time together just getting to know each other and having fun. Once we got more serious, I was always the one suggesting things for us to do, complimenting him, introduced him to my friends, etc. He just never put as much effort into our relationship as I did.

    10 votes