15 Parents Reveal The Best Piece Of Advice They Wish They Knew Before They Had Kids

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Parents: vote up the advice every new parent needs to know.

Most of the time, unsolicited parenting advice is terrible. But sometimes, on the very rarest of occasions, you'll hear some good parenting advice. These people are sharing tips for new parents that they actually found super helpful. Check them out and vote up! 

  • 1
    37 VOTES

    'Bond with Your Kids One-On-One'

    From Redditor u/TheManWhoHasThePlan:

    Take time to bond with your kids one-on-one. I work a lot, then do yard work and other chores around the house to keep everything up and running when I get home. One day I was reading [on] Reddit about what daughters felt made their dad a good parent. One user responded that her dad took her for a walk every day just to talk about anything. A couple of days after reading that, my 8-year-old daughter was talking to me and said she wanted to know more about me... favorite color, food, and so forth. I realized even though I went to all her school events and sporting events and would read to her, I never spent any time just bonding with her. So I started to take her on a walk after work every day since. And our relationship is better than ever. I let her ask me any questions she has; I ask her questions; and I know when she is older I will look back at these walks and be grateful for them. Maybe if she is having issues in the future she will feel more inclined to tell me about them. I know more about her now also. Do stop and take time one-on-one with your kids; you won't regret it.

  • 2
    29 VOTES

    'Be Patient With Your Kid'

    From Redditor u/mikemella:

    I was once leaving a library with my baby son when a guy I recognized as a busker here in Toronto stopped me, smiled, and gave me the best parenting advice I've ever received:

    "Be patient with him, because you'll always regret the times when you weren't."

  • 3
    17 VOTES

    'Remember: Kids Have Bad Days Too'

    From Redditor u/iwannaridearaptor:

    Kids have bad days too. They have days where they woke up on the wrong side of the bed and Mom's running late, so we have to rush to get to the bus stop on time. Or their best friend didn't want to play with them that day and it hurt their feelings. Sometimes they can just get overwhelmed and not know how to express how they feel. They get all that pent-up "badness" and often act out because of it. What works for my son is squeezing the bad feelings out. We do a giant bear hug until he feels better. It helps him to calm down and get a grip while also applying enough pressure to "anchor" him. Once he's calm, he normally explains why he's feeling that way and we talk about how to fix it. Sometimes he has bad feelings before school and we squeeze them out before the bus comes. Some mornings he dances them out while listening to music on the way to the bus stop. Some days, the school was just too much for him and he needs to [lie] down for a few minutes to "restart" his day. He really enjoyed the book [Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day], which is where we got the idea to restart his day. I'm not a parenting expert and I run out of patience more than I would like to admit, but we've run into a lot fewer tantrums since we've started doing these things. He even squeezes bad feelings out of the dog if he doesn't want me to help. He also learns empathy because he knows that everyone has a bad day sometimes.

  • 4
    14 VOTES

    'Prepare Them To Be Independent'

    From Redditor u/yessri1953:

    You are preparing a human to be as independent as they can while realizing helping others is a key to happiness. Age-appropriate responsibility, freedom to err, and be generous yourself to model good values.

  • 5
    14 VOTES

    'Personal Care Is Important'

    From Redditor u/queenofBs:

    Take a shower. Get dressed. Your baby will be okay while you take care of yourself. Personal care is so important, even when it's mundane.

  • 6
    14 VOTES

    'Apologize When You Do Something Wrong'

    From Redditor u/NovelTeach:

    Apologize when you do something wrong, or that hurts their feelings.

    Something I realized after having my first son was that no matter what I did, someone would try to shame me for it, or make me feel less than, or not as good a mom. In someone’s eyes I would always be wrong. I needed to learn to be okay with that, choose how I would be wrong, and make sure the wrong I chose was right for my family.