A High-End Escort Answers All The Questions You’ve Ever Wondered About Their Intimate Business

If you ever wanted a firsthand account of sex work in America, look no further than this Redditor, who shared what it's like being a high-end escort. User EmmaP goes to great lengths to answer people's questions about being an escort, delving into her day-to-day interactions and how she maneuvers the complex yet fascinating world of this kind of work.

Despite people's preconceptions about escorts or the "Girlfriend Experience," EmmaP describes a business that often operates much more safely and smoothly than most would assume. Rather than engage in quick flings or one-night stands, she describes how she prefers to build up a rapport with her clients, some of whom she even refers to as regulars.

Facts about being an escort truly sound less scandalous and actually a bit standard, at least in terms of being a business transaction. While only certain parts of the world legalize sex work, it continues to be such a thriving business. Read on for questions that EmmaP has answered about her work. 


  • 'I'm Physically Handicapped And A Virgin. Will I Weird Most [Escorts] Out?'

    EmmaP responded to a question from a disabled reader about hiring a escort:

    "First of all, thank you for having this conversation with me. I appreciate you asking; even with the safety of the interwebs anonymity it still takes balls to talk about this stuff.

    My suggestion would be to talk to someone you trust and respect first. Then do some research and find a good agency in your area. Talk to the agency and explain the situation. Find an agency you feel confident and comfortable with and then ask for their recommendation on a girl. They know their girls and know who would be best suited for you. This is really the advice I would give anyone except for the part about talking to someone you trust about it. I would recommend someone comes with you. If it was me, I would have your friend bring you in and we would sit down and chat about your needs. This could also be done over the phone before hand so you can talk to her and make sure you feel comfortable.

    As for the being weirded out, if [the escort] is weirded out by a chair then she does not deserve your virginity! Find someone who does."

  • 'What's The Difference Between A High-End And Low-End Escort?'

    According to EmmaP: "I define it as class. I have an agency who screens and books clients for me. The agency makes 30% of my take (before tips) and basically keeps me safe. I wear high quality lingerie, I am clean (tested regularly), and you could take me to meet your boss or your mother."

  • 'Any Terrible Injuries/Stories/Times You Were Threatened?'

    Of this, she says: "I have been fortunate and not had a lot of bad experiences. I have stopped seeing two clients and there is one who I may have to stop seeing:

    • A guy brought [drugs] into my hotel room. I kicked him out, told him to take his stuff with him, did not take any money from him, and he has been banned by the agency.
    • I had seen a guy a few times and he told me the story of his wife finding out about him seeing me and other girls. He was starting to see me as a solution to his life problems and he was going downhill fast. I can't and won't be part of someone destroying their life and I will not capitalize on it. I have stopped seeing him.
    • The one I am on the fence about has been a client for a bit now. Every time I see him he pushes the limits. I am going to have a very frank conversation with him next time he books (before accepting any cash) and tell him his behavior is disrespectful and I am not going to stand for it. He will then have the choice of seeing me on my terms or he is free to leave without any expense."
  • 'Group Rates?'

    "[A group]? That will likely cost a little more," she says. 

  • 'Do Most Guys Want A Date, Someone To Talk To, Or Just [Get It On]?'

    "One thing this profession has taught me is there is no such thing as 'most guys.' Every single person is different and interesting in their own right," says EmmaP.

    "I have had younger guys who are inexperienced and want to learn. If I had to make any generalizations I would say most people want to feel special, unique, and that they matter. A lot of guys want to talk after and tell me about their lives. Some guys absolutely want to date and we go out and it is the 'GFE' or girlfriend experience. I had one guy come in (who just wants [to do it]) and says 'I have seen what men spend emotionally and financially on their women. You are much cheaper and much more skilled.'

    So really, it depends. It is all about providing a service to a client and making sure everyone wins out of the situation."

  • 'How Old Were You When You First [Got It On]? And When You First Got Paid For [It]?'

    EmmaP reveals: "I was 15 when I [did it] for the first time. I was paid for [it] the first time when I was 30. I am 32."