Relationships Things You Can Do For Your S.O. To Help That Aren't Just Trying To "Fix It"  

Lauren Slocum
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List Rules Vote up the best options to help out the special someone in your life - without trying to "fix it."

If your partner is upset, nothing is more frustrating than hearing the words, "I don't want you to fix it." Of course you want to offer a concrete and doable solution that will quickly cure whatever ails your significant other. But being a supportive boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't mean being a life coach, a guru, or just a general advice giver. Oftentimes, it's simply being there - and loving someone - that truly counts. Here are some tips for supportive relationships that involve providing affection, distraction, and comfort. 

When your partner is scared, frustrated, sad, or disappointed, it's important for the proverbial "other half" to help them through. Don't feel like you need to be perfect or an expert in psychology to help. If you're wondering how to be supportive in a relationship, there are plenty of ways to do so that don't require a college degree or hours spent in the self-help section of the bookstore.

Start small. Be kind. Be soft. Let them vent and simply listen, repeat their words, and don't immediately offer advice. Do small things to cheer them up. Go on a walk together. Cook them a nice meal. Leave them a love note. If you're looking for some creative ways to be a supportive partner, read this list of all the little things that make a big impact. Vote up the best ways to help below! 

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27 0
Let them vent

2
23 0
Ask thoughtful follow up questions

3
14 0
Don't be judgmental

4
12 0
Be patient while they're feeling down

5
21 1
Plan a relaxing evening at home together

6
11 0
Check in with them, even if the situation seems to be over

7
10 0
Use a positive, gentle tone

8
8 0
Rub their shoulders

9
20 3
Call out the positive ways in which they're handling the situation

10
16 2
Ask if they're looking for advice before offering it

11
16 2
Hold their hand

12
18 3
Don't take it personally when they need space

13
19 6
Make their favorite comfort food

14
16 4
Send them a sweet text message

15
15 4
Write a love note and leave it somewhere they'll find it

16
13 3
Remind them of all the reasons you love them

17
13 3
Be the big spoon

18
7 1
Assure them you've got their back

19
10 4
Paraphrase what they say so they know you're listening

20
11 5
Plan a fun date to look forward to

21
5 0
Invite them on a walk

22
6 1
Say, "I love you."

23
7 2
Give them a small gift, just because

24
9 5
Kindly insist on a spur of the moment ice cream run

25
9 5
Take them to a movie to get their mind off their trouble

26
6 2
Surprise them with their favorite dessert

27
4 1
Rub their feet

28
5 3
Buy them flowers

29
4 2
If they're in the mood for lovin', get intimate

30
6 6
Offer to invite friends or family over

31
3 3
Offer to drive them around for the night

32
2 5
Write them a poem