relationships Things You Can Do For Your S.O. To Help That Aren't Just Trying To "Fix It"  

Lauren Slocum
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List Rules Vote up the best options to help out the special someone in your life - without trying to "fix it."

If your partner is upset, nothing is more frustrating than hearing the words, "I don't want you to fix it." Of course you want to offer a concrete and doable solution that will quickly cure whatever ails your significant other. But being a supportive boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't mean being a life coach, a guru, or just a general advice giver. Oftentimes, it's simply being there - and loving someone - that truly counts. Here are some tips for supportive relationships that involve providing affection, distraction, and comfort. 

When your partner is scared, frustrated, sad, or disappointed, it's important for the proverbial "other half" to help them through. Don't feel like you need to be perfect or an expert in psychology to help. If you're wondering how to be supportive in a relationship, there are plenty of ways to do so that don't require a college degree or hours spent in the self-help section of the bookstore.

Start small. Be kind. Be soft. Let them vent and simply listen, repeat their words, and don't immediately offer advice. Do small things to cheer them up. Go on a walk together. Cook them a nice meal. Leave them a love note. If you're looking for some creative ways to be a supportive partner, read this list of all the little things that make a big impact. Vote up the best ways to help below! 

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Let them vent

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Plan a relaxing evening at home together

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Hold their hand

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Call out the positive ways in which they're handling the situation

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Make their favorite comfort food

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Take them to a movie to get their mind off their trouble

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Don't take it personally when they need space

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Ask thoughtful follow up questions

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Ask if they're looking for advice before offering it

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Be the big spoon

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Send them a sweet text message

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Write a love note and leave it somewhere they'll find it

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Don't be judgmental

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Plan a fun date to look forward to

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Kindly insist on a spur of the moment ice cream run

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Offer to invite friends or family over

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Give them a small gift, just because

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Be patient while they're feeling down

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Remind them of all the reasons you love them

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Check in with them, even if the situation seems to be over

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Surprise them with their favorite dessert

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Write them a poem

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Offer to drive them around for the night

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Use a positive, gentle tone

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Paraphrase what they say so they know you're listening

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Buy them flowers

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Rub their shoulders

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Assure them you've got their back

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Say, "I love you."

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Rub their feet

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Invite them on a walk

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If they're in the mood for lovin', get intimate