Signs Someone Is Talking About You Behind Your Back 

Mel Judson
Updated February 24, 2020 9.6k votes 1.9k voters 190k views 20 items

Are you someone who often says to a friend, "I'm paranoid that people are talking about me?" So many of us are and there is a good chance you'll get a handful of knowledge from this list of ways to know if someone is talking about you. Throughout our lives, from elementary school to the nursing home, we want to know how to know if people are talking about us. Though it is hard to ever be 100% positive about being the center of gossip, this list compiles the best ways to find out if somebody is talking about you behind your back.

Use this list as your guide to gossip. It is full of helpful tips and ways to get paranoid people to rest assured they have reason to calm down. If people aren't exhibiting these signs, then there's a good chance you are just being paranoid that people are talking about you for no good reason! And if your friends are talking smack about you, are they really your friends?

This list shows you how to know if people are talking about you and you will not regret checking it out. Find out how to catch 'em with this ultimate ranking of ways to know people are gossiping about you behind your back and you'll never have to ask "is someone talking smack about me?" ever again!

Hot and Cold
The way to know if people are talking about you is by studying who they are. This is especially true of the way they have been particularly acting towards you - and acting towards you lately. If someone is being hot and cold, on and off, friendly and unfriendly with you, this could speak to the fact that they're talking behind your back.
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You're on the Reverse End
As the saying goes, "Those who gossip with you, gossip without you." If you are someone who is paranoid that people are talking about you, listen close for someone else's name to pop up. There's a solid chance your friends who really enjoy talking about other friends secretly are doing so about you when you are not around.
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The 'Stop and Chat' Stop
Ever walk over to a group of people who are mid-conversation and the conversation just so happens to stop? That's a good way to know if people are talking about you behind your back. "Stop and chats" occur from high school hallways to office water coolers, but if those stop and chats come to a sudden stop, it might be because the chat was about you.
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The Stink Eye
"The Stink Eye" is a glare-esque expression that another person gives you when, let's just say it, they're not your biggest fan. If someone is talking about you in a group of others, they might be giving you a look that signifies they're doing so. That deadpan snarl is definitely not a good sign!
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