Couples in committed, non-monogamous relationships – also referred to as "swinging" or "the lifestyle" – are often thought to be part of a tiny underground community that never escaped the weirdo world of the 1970s sexual revolution. In reality, swingers are more prevalent than you might think (there are even a ton of celebrity swingers). There are plenty of surprising facts about the lifestyle that indicate participants have stronger, healthier marriages than conventional couples.
At one time, swing couples were relegated to private clubs and secret parties, but now they're online and meeting up for adventures in bedrooms (and other places) all across the country. While they might be having better sex than you, not all of the facts about swinging the public "knows" are true. They're not all old and bored, and almost none of them sport terrible leisure suits or pervy mustaches. Almost. Most swingers are professionals with families and have very successful, happy marriages.
There are rules and regulations in the lifestyle, though. If you're deciding whether or not to dip your toe in the sexy, sexy river, you might want to get all your swinger facts straight. Make sure you study up before taking the plunge, and you just might find yourself a happy participant in the provocative world of non-monogamy.
They Have Their Own Language
Like any other group, swingers have their own language and terminology. People outside of the lifestyle are referred to as "vanilla" in the swing community. This secret vernacular is useful when you want to discuss the lifestyle in mixed company, or when introducing couples to one another in a public place that doesn't need to know about your private life. As a swing couple, it's probably a good idea to know if potential partners are into DP (double penetration) and if they're HWP (height/weight proportionate). After all, you guys are only looking to soft swap (switching partners but not engaging in intercourse) with a unicorn (a single, generally bi-sexual woman).
They Have Way More Orgasms Than Vanillas
Up to 30% of the female population have trouble reaching orgasm. Of course, there are a lot of factors that contribute to that statistic, but studies show that sexual variety is a significant component in the equation. Men, especially men over the age of 50, can also have significant problems reaching orgasm.
In a survey of 1,200 swingers, however, it was reported that less than 5% of women and 1% of men reported never reaching orgasm while swinging in the past year, and that doesn't even take into account their sex life with their committed partner outside of the lifestyle. It's safe to say, then, that swingers are reaching completion more frequently than their monogamous counterparts.
There's A Lot More Of Them Than You Think
While the world of consensual non-monogamy might seem like a very small community, studies show that around 4% of the US population is actively swinging. If you live in America, that means there's a good chance one of your boring neighbors is having a much more satisfying sex life than you, along with 13 million of your fellow citizens (though probably not all at once).
There Are Different Kinds Of Swinging
Most swingers don't meet up for fleshy bacchanalian free-for-alls. Like any relationship, people have different boundaries and desires. Some couples have bisexual women and men, and some are straight, only swinging with members of the opposite sex. Some couples are only into soft swapping, which doesn't include actual intercourse and focuses more on touching and kissing.
Other couples are into voyeurism while some are exhibitionists. There is also closed swinging, where partners swap and go to separate rooms, and open swinging which means everyone shares the same space.