Do men regret breaking up with good women? In a word: yes. Men who regret breakups almost always do so because hindsight is the brutal lens through which the past becomes oh so clear. Men who regret letting someone get away, do so for a ton of reasons. Maybe they fell for someone else who seemed more attractive but that time revealed was a superficial first assessment. For the man who had a Wonder Woman all along, they may regret losing her when a new relationship strikes a harsh contrast. A lot of men think about a special girlfriend they had when they were young and realize that they shouldn't have broken up with her because they are still thinking about her years later.
On the flip side, we all know that breakups can be a beautiful thing. It's important to pay attention to relationship red flags and the warning signs of a toxic partner. For many a breakup is a necessary and healthy thing. The relationships that haunt people later are the ones that ended for no apparent reason. Breakups are hard but sympathizing with others can be very therapeutic. These stories are perfect for anyone in exactly that situation, or those who could use that reminder to appreciate what they currently have.
When He Started To Imagine His Ex With Other Guys, He Panicked
Long, cohabiting relationship. We were fundamentally unable to resolve conflicts without protracted shouting matches. It wore me out. I gave up trying to preserve the relationship. She moved out. We stayed friends. Months passed, and I started to imagine her dating other guys. I panicked. Tried as hard as I could, within respectful boundaries, to get her back. I was unsuccessful.
I'll tell ya, I just went to pieces. I can't remember ever feeling so sad, before or since. It was extremely difficult not to let thoughts of her intrude in my life without her. Had to break off contact entirely. This, too, was difficult, as we shared hundreds of mutual friends.
And yet... I now believe that it was all for the best. Slowly, I recovered. When I imagine an alternate timeline in which we reconciled, it looks very grim indeed. I think we were (and we remain) just too different to be compatible. Although I don't involve myself in her life, nor interest myself in her activities, my friends tell me that she's doing well. And I'm doing well. There are conditions in my life that I'm working on changing (trying to change jobs, trying to buy a house, etc. - nothing really dire, in other words), but I'm certain that I'm much happier now than I was during a majority of our time together.
This Guy Didn't Know How Good He Had It Until It Was Too Late
The women I've dated in the years since. She was amazing, never once did I not trust her. We made an amazing team and our kids got along great. I think I knew she was awesome when we went on a road trip, 5 hours in the car felt like 5 minutes.
I f*cked that relationship up, not a day goes by that I don't regret it.
He Was Too Casual About Abortion
I was in a serious relationship with a girl for a while. We shared dreams about marriage, having kids, etc.
We were 19 and one day over the phone she brought up a "what-if" scenario. "If I got pregnant what would you do with our baby?" I tried to think about it rationally, instead of emotionally. I said if it was early on in the pregnancy I would consider aborting, but if it was further along and I felt I was killing a baby I would def keep it. It depends.
She was mortified by my answer; the idea that I even considered abortion was monstrous to her. I was just trying to have a conversation and she took it out of proportion, imo.
She didn't talk to me for a couple of days till she called me out of the blue to break up, blaming me for not loving her.
In hindsight I wish I answered the question differently, years later now having a child and would never consider abortion now that the situation is actually real.
After a couple weeks of breaking up she found someone else, she has been with him ever since, years later.
He Traded Her Out For A Hotter Girl Who Was A Dud
I was a stupid kid. Really hot girl decided she wanted to date me, broke up with the other girl so I could date the hot girl. Hot girl was shallow as hell and we broke up not long after starting. Other girl ended up being basically my dream girl. Absolutely beautiful, smart, funny, great personality, down to earth... etc.
Me and her stayed friends for a long time, but even though she still had feelings for me, she wouldn't actually get with me because she never trusted me again.