Do men regret breaking up with good women? In a word: yes. Men who regret breakups almost always do so because hindsight is the brutal lens through which the past becomes oh so clear. Men who regret letting someone get away, do so for a ton of reasons. Maybe they fell for someone else who seemed more attractive but that time revealed was a superficial first assessment. For the man who had a Wonder Woman all along, they may regret losing her when a new relationship strikes a harsh contrast. A lot of men think about a special girlfriend they had when they were young and realize that they shouldn't have broken up with her because they are still thinking about her years later.
On the flip side, we all know that breakups can be a beautiful thing. It's important to pay attention to relationship red flags and the warning signs of a toxic partner. For many a breakup is a necessary and healthy thing. The relationships that haunt people later are the ones that ended for no apparent reason. Breakups are hard but sympathizing with others can be very therapeutic. These stories are perfect for anyone in exactly that situation, or those who could use that reminder to appreciate what they currently have.
I was a little sh*t who thought I was too good for her, and left. She was my first real girlfriend so I didn’t really understand what I was getting into. Then I have 9 months of HORRIBLE relationships and hookups and realized the mistake I made. I waited until she was single again and got her back, promising that I wouldn’t let her go this time.
We celebrate our 9 year anniversary this weekend, bought a house, and are getting married next year.
I had a single issue with one of my girlfriends. ONE flaw I didnt like. Holy sh*t, nowadays I probably accept 5-10 flaws as not bad. Godd*mn I wish I knew how quickly the good women would get snatched up! Nobody to blame but me...
I was 22 years old and she was 19. She wasn't jaded yet from bad relationships. Nothing but fun, loyalty, love, trust, appreciation, all of that. Nowadays I am involved mostly with women 25+ and goodness me, most of them just are not quality to be honest with you. Lots of baggage and issues and expectations. All the really beautiful and fantastic women got quickly wifed up, and for good reason.
It started as a tough but amicable breakup that I initiated. I felt I was not ready for a serious long-term relationship and was getting 'grass is greener' feelings and the relationship was at a lull stage. It was my first relationship so I didn't know what these feelings meant or how to navigate them.
After a month I came crawling back to her (messaging) to ask for forgiveness and to ask if we can try again. After what seemed to be a hopeful few weeks of texting the proposal was ultimately rejected. In so many words she said she was too hurt and the trust is too broken.
My regret after the breakup stemmed from my feelings telling me all we really needed was time apart and that I took her for granted. That I didn't actually do anything to fix the situation when we were in a lull. That I didn't actually communicate how I was feeling. That love is not necessarily like a Disney movie. That I couldn't answer what someone else has that she doesn't? So yes, these are all mistakes I will live with.
She has stuck true to no contact except for a few weeks when I broke contact, and I had hope of fixing things.
Now I am the pathetic ex who broke her heart and came crawling back only to be kicked to the curb. She has kept her dignity. I have not. My attempt to fix things probably diminished her opinion of me.
So now I guess it's many many lessons learned. And I know its over... but still I get shreds of hope. But I know it is without a doubt over.
And I know it probably wasn't meant to be, and I know if I did get back together it would probably be a disaster. And I am only feeling this way because I'm lonely. But what if?
Doesn't matter now it's over. Over over over. She doesn't care about you anymore and you don't matter.
She will find someone soon and she will look back and be happy it never happened.
And eventually so will I.
Yeah, a relationship I had when I was about 25 or so got rocky, and ended. I was really sad, and thought I had no chance to get back together with her. It was ugly. A few months later I started hooking up with a notorious "village bicycle" (her behind-her-back nickname was "The Wh*re of Babylon") and word got around.
I got a nasty email shortly after from previous SO that said basically "well NOW I'll NEVER get back together with you."
I'm not sure what i regret more, the fact that our relationship flamed out so terribly, or that I hooked up with the Wh*re of Babylon shortly thereafter. Either way, it took me about 10 years to fully get over.