Moving in with your significant other is a very big step for your relationship but it's nothing to be scared of. Simply read these tips and stories to prep!
From Redditor u/aviary83:
Remember that an expectation is resentment waiting to happen. Good communication is the key to absolutely everything.Good to consider?
You'll Still Want Alone Time
From a former Redditor:
It's perfectly ok for both of you to want the house to yourself from time to time. And sometimes, you'll sit at the same table all evening without speaking a word to each other.Good to consider?
Communicate And Follow Through
From Redditor u/cat_with_giant_b**bs:
Something that you may not realize is that both of you already have an idea of how things should run, who should be responsible for what, and expectations of each other. You may not even realize it and you may never have acknowledged it consciously, but those expectations are there. You guys might have the same expectations of yourselves and each other, but they might be different too.
The thing to keep in mind is that agreements prevent disagreements.
If you expect her to, do laundry for the both of you for example, and she only consistently does it for herself, you will get frustrated and grow resentment. If she expects you to take the trash out and bring it in every week and you don't do that, she may get frustrated and grow resentment.
It doesn't matter how you guys divide up your household responsibilities and who does what. What matters is that you each communicate this to each other and follow through.
It's so important to communicate these things so that each of you is on the same page.
Lastly, you have to let the little things go. You guys will have disagreements, you will make mistakes, but try to remember the love you have for each other and sometimes that means swallowing your pride and making sacrifices (something she will do for you as well).
Another thing to remember is that, even though you guys will be spending a lot more time, it's crucial that you make time for relationships outside of the home. It will be more important now than ever to make time for dates.
Good luck and have fun!Good to consider?
"Equal" Chores Mean Something Different To Everyone
From Redditor u/goldbat:
My husband & I will be living together for 20 years in October. We're married for 13.
Here's the thing with "chores" and such... "Equal" doesn't necessarily mean quantitatively "equal." It's not an "I did one thing and now you do one thing" kind of deal.
In our relationship, "equal" means that everything is completed and each person completes the tasks they are better at, willing to complete, or hate less.
So, in our case, my husband is in charge of grocery shopping, meal planning, and cooking. I am in charge of the "Charlie Work" (Always Sunny in Philadelphia reference) while he's running all over town going to all the grocery stores and such. Charlie Work = cleaning bathrooms, doing dishes, taking out garbage, litter boxes, and anything else "gross."
I don't "LOVE" Charlie Work, but I like it more than grocery stores and cooking.Good to consider?