Moving in with your significant other is a very big step for your relationship but it's nothing to be scared of. Simply read these tips and stories to prep!
- 113 VOTES
"Equal" Chores Mean Something Different To Everyone
From Redditor u/goldbat:
My husband & I will be living together for 20 years in October. We're married for 13.
Here's the thing with "chores" and such... "Equal" doesn't necessarily mean quantitatively "equal." It's not an "I did one thing and now you do one thing" kind of deal.
In our relationship, "equal" means that everything is completed and each person completes the tasks they are better at, willing to complete, or hate less.
So, in our case, my husband is in charge of grocery shopping, meal planning, and cooking. I am in charge of the "Charlie Work" (Always Sunny in Philadelphia reference) while he's running all over town going to all the grocery stores and such. Charlie Work = cleaning bathrooms, doing dishes, taking out garbage, litter boxes, and anything else "gross."
I don't "LOVE" Charlie Work, but I like it more than grocery stores and cooking.Good to consider?
- 222 VOTES
You'll Still Want Alone Time
From a former Redditor:
It's perfectly ok for both of you to want the house to yourself from time to time. And sometimes, you'll sit at the same table all evening without speaking a word to each other.Good to consider?
From Redditor u/aviary83:
Remember that an expectation is resentment waiting to happen. Good communication is the key to absolutely everything.Good to consider?
- 43 VOTES
You're A Selfish Person
From Redditor u/seemedlikeagoodplan:
First, you're a really selfish person. Like, really selfish. And so is your girlfriend. You may not think so, but after a few months of living with her, both of you will probably realize this. Hopefully, you've got the kind of relationship where both of you encourage each other to be less selfish. I've been married for nearly 3 years, and this was some of the best advice that my wife and I got. Just about every time we have argued or been upset with each other, it's because one of us is being selfish. Often both.
Secondly, there's a saying with a lot of truth to it: "Everyone marries a stranger". In your context, it might be "Everyone moves in with a stranger". Dating someone, and living with them every day, are two dramatically different things. Know that, and slack your expectations off a bit.Good to consider?