You may joke about how your BF is a crazy narcissist for always posting selfies with fun Snapchat filters, but narcissism is actually a genuine, recognized mental condition. And the red flags run a whole lot deeper than just being a little vain (seriously, who doesn't check their hair every time they see their reflection in a mirror?).
Jokes aside, dating someone with narcissistic personality disorder can be unbelievably devastating, and narcissists have a reputation for being emotionally abusive. It's especially tricky because the signs that your partner is a narcissist can sneak up on you before you even have a chance to realize what has happened. They're nice guys in disguise, and so much more than just the vain basic-bro you generally write off.
Narcissists tend to be grandiose, charming, and attractive - like a The Notebook-style Ryan Gosling with the sheen of a mysterious bad-boy you can't wait to get to know. The problem is that on the inside they're intensely manipulative and often lack the empathy necessary to care about the fact that they’ve totally wrecked you. In fact, many people believe that narcissistic personality disorder covers up a severe lack of self-esteem. Plus, these people can be extremely toxic, especially if they lack self-awareness (and let's be honest, it's really hard for a narcissist to admit they're sick as intense denial about personal shortcomings is the heart of the disorder).
It may seem almost impossible to tell if you've fallen for a narcissist, but the love-bombing and charming white knight act only lasts so long. These nice guys are merely wolves in stylish sheep's clothing and perfect haircuts. But don't be fooled. Here are some of the major giveaways that your significant other is a total narcissist.