When you become a parent, the list of what you don't know about parenting is never-ending. New parents are constantly bombarded by tips from friends and family. Some of it is good, and of course most of it is terrible. And while post-parent advice is all well and good, these parents are sharing what they wish they knew before they had kids. Read on to learn what to know before you become a parent.
- 18 VOTES
Practice "Active Listening"
From Redditor u/chuppiecabra:
I call it "active listening", it is really draining. When there is only another adult in the house you don't pay much attention to the everyday noises. With kids you are always listening. Are they crying, are they fighting, are they too quiet, what just got opened, etc. Gets better as they get older but nothing can prepare you for it.
- 218 VOTES
Your Kids Might Be Different From You
From Redditor u/weirdkid71:
There’s a very good chance they won’t turn out as you think.
- 36 VOTES
Finding Balance Is Nearly Impossible
From Redditor u/katedid:
Once they get out of the toddler stage, it can become extremely worrisome and time-consuming to parent them to become good people. They start asking questions, and they form their own opinions. It's a very delicate balance between trying to get them to listen to important things and trying to get them to become more independent. It makes you think you are constantly messing it all up. It can be very hard to find a balance.
- 45 VOTES
Everything Takes Longer Than You Thought It Would
From Redditor u/MisterEvilBreakfast:
Everything takes longer than you thought it would. Leaving the house with a baby or toddler takes an extra 10 minutes minimum to make sure they haven't sh*t themselves, you have a change of clothes and extra nappies, milk, food, toys, etc. Strapping them into your car seat or pram/stroller is like wrestling with an uncooperative, strangely strong yet ultimately fragile octopus.
- 521 VOTES
You Will Never Sleep The Same Again
From Redditor u/Lividlemonade:
You will NEVER sleep the same again. It’s just different levels of fear and worries as they get older.
Also, I stupidly thought once I had a child I would automatically “know” how to parent. You’re the same dummy before and after having a child, and you realize how much your parents were winging it.
- 618 VOTES
You'll Be Giving Up Your Private Life
From Redditor u/theofiel:
When they grow older, you don't have a private life anymore. They stay awake longer than you.