If you're a single woman over the age of 25, you've inevitably been asked about your childbearing timeline. But what if you're one of those people who simply doesn't want kids? That's fine! Just because every Stephanie, Michelle, and Danica are having kids and blasting it all over your Facebook feed doesn't mean you, too, need children. We're bringing you a list of reasons not to have kids so you can stop feeling so guilty about it and live the life you've secretly always dreamed of... a child free one!
Back in the day, getting married and having a family was the common life course for 20-somethings across the States. If you didn't have a trophy husband/wife and three kids to show off, something was obviously wrong with you. But with demanding professions, opportunities to live unconventionally, and over seven billion people on the planet, it seems like people are thinking twice before popping out a couple spawns. It's totally fine to say, " I don't want kids!"
When it comes to deciding to have a family, we have to remember that singsong childhood cliche - everyone's different. Not everyone has a strong pull to procreate nor do they feel the desire to be defined by a family. Whether you've found contentment in your spouse, your pet, ice cream, your career... some people are totally happy spending their lives without the traditional family structure.
Bottom line? Whatever you choose for yourself is the right choice for you! But if you've been on the fence about having your own family, or if you're just trying to better understand how some people don't want children, check out this list of reasons to not have kids. Leave a comment if you're willing to share you own feelings on the subject!
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HoserUSC added Disposable Income Is AWESOME If I'm going to spend a bunch of money on extra-curricular activities, I'll be the one participating, thanks
They're Extremely Expensive For an average middle-class American family, it costs $245,000 to raise one child. Source: CNN
You Don't Need a Child to Define Your Womanhood Never let social norms make you feel like child bearing defines womanhood.
HoserUSC added You Like Nice Things Think your white...ANYTHING will stay white with kids around? Think again...
Your Schedule Will Become Someone Else's Schedule No matter how much you try to preserve it, kids will squash your schedule.
You Will Literally Lose Tons of Sleep New parents lost approximately 1,500 hours of sleep in the first 12 months of parenthood. Source: Ergoflex
You Value Your Alone Time More than Anything How will you lock yourself in your room with a book after work?
KuroshiDori added You Like Your Peace and Quiet.
You're Not at All Worried About "Feeling Incomplete" Some people say a child will complete you, which is 100% not true.
HoserUSC added Recreational Travel Is Unnecessarily Difficult Who wants to change crappy diapers on a plane? Seriously.
Kids Will Change Your Relationship Dynamic Remember all that sex you guys enjoyed? Roll it in a Pampers and can it.
The Declining State of the Planet Troubles You You know things are bad when pollinators plummet towards extinction. We need more bees, not more kids. Source: BBC
You're Severely Impatient Always been impatient? Your kids will test that weakness daily.
You've Never Had a Strong Desire to Be a Parent Some people never have that maternal extinct. And that's not a bad thing.
You're Completely Satisfied with Your Life Regardless of what those old boobs say, it's okay to be happy without children!
They Might Inherit Unlucky Genetic Conditions Do some research. See which genes and diseases you could potentially pass on.
You Can Adopt Children Who Need Families There are currently more than 397,000 kids in the foster care system in the U.S. Source: CCAI Institute
The Possibility of Regret Doesn't Intimidate You You can't base childbearing on possible future regret.
You Appreciate a Strong Cocktail Multiple Nights of the Week If you're still sippin' gin and tonics Monday-Sunday, give a baby more thought.
You're Worried About Over Population There are over 7 billion people in the world. 'Nuff said. Source: worldometers
You've Never Liked Children It's okay! You wouldn't be the first.
You Aren't Emotionally Stable Parents need to be emotionally stable and reliable.
You Had a Hard Enough Childhood Don't want to risk putting someone through your experiences? Don't do it.
You Have Tons of Debt For your everyone's sake, deal with debt before having a baby.
You Want to Pass on Body Mutilation Stretch marks, vaginal tears, caesareans, sciatica, restlessness, nausea...
Bill Wallens added The Luggage
theresa added You're a Selfish Prick
EveryIdeaStolen added Kids Parties It is the equivalent of a tornado striking your house, especially when it is a large group.
You Have a Serious and Extensive Career Path Some careers take decades to achieve. Maybe that's your destiny!
Tricia Psarreas-Murray added You're Getting too Old
You Work 50+ Hours Each Week Be realistic about your future! Don't sacrifice your family's happiness because of a job.
bigcraig added You Live for the Weekend
Tricia Psarreas-Murray added You Have Serious Medical Problems If you're too sick to take care of yourself you may not be well enough to care for a child.
You've Always Had Anger Management Problems If you're worried about battling anger issues prior to child bearing, get a dog instead.
You're Already Thinking About Hiring a Live-in Nanny If you want a nanny before you've even had a child, don't get pregnant just yet.
You're Worried About Rape Culture It's an uncomfortable but honest truth. The world is a scary place for kids and women.
Your Job Requires You to Travel Often Come on, you know it's impossible to have two full-time jobs.
You're Trying to Fill an Emotional Void Having a child won't repair emotional trauma or heal past issues.