Have you ever been shocked by the end of a "perfect" relationship? Whether it's your own or a friend's or a relative's? If you've ever wanted to know what changed in good relationships, these people are sharing their personal stories.
Read on to learn about all the relationship red flags you can try to avoid.
- 159 VOTES
He Said He Wanted Kids... But Didn't
From Redditor u/jocietimes:
I was a young, single mom and I had this wonderful friend from work who was really fun and a genuine nice guy. He also had a kid from a previous relationship... so it was easy to get along. He was 15 years older than I was and generally had his priorities aligned. We were both in the same head space as "if we don't see ourselves getting married, we should break up" - since we both had children. We dated for several months... then the conversation turned to the fact that I wanted more children someday and he didn't... so we broke up.
Two weeks later he said that if I wanted more children he would be on board. Young, naive me said, "Great!" We started planning our wedding. Got married, stayed married for two years. I dragged him to fertility doctors and we discussed getting his vasectomy reversed, etc. Every time we talked, he was supportive and said that he was excited to have more kids. But never went into action...
First thing was reversing his vasectomy and we had to save up for that surgery. We made good money together, but he would never stick to a budget... to the point of zeroing out our account before every paycheck. Buying $400 pairs of shorts to wear while he was biking, $200 cycling jersies... etc. This went on for two years... I should say that I allowed it to go on for two years... I didn't have the courage to confront him. I finally confronted him about the financial issues and some other selfish behavior on his part... He eventually broke down and said he never had any intention of reversing his vasectomy and he had hoped I would just get over it. I wasted no time leaving.
- 276 VOTES
Their Partner Kept Leaving And Coming Back
From Redditor u/archaeopteryx79:
Great when we were together, but he was used to walking out and me taking him back. I finally had a wake-up call and decided I was going to do whatever I had to in order to stay away, and I gathered a group and family who would help. When he came back a month later, he was shocked that I didn't want him back and didn't ask for him back. After that, it became far easier to stay away from him and it was the best decision I made in my life. He was a vampire sucking the life out of me.
- 348 VOTES
They Didn't Keep Their Promises
From Redditor u/frogggers:
He didn’t fulfill any promises he made. I’d communicate a problem [and] we’d have a productive conversation, but he wouldn’t change. This happened for a year until my self-esteem was at an all-time low because I thought I wasn’t worth the change. He ended up dumping me after I told him it upset me that when I was having a rough night and needed him, he stayed out drinking after promising to spend the night with me. I cried every day for months in that relationship.
- 466 VOTES
Their Partner Refused To Get Help
From Redditor u/Forced_Storm:
Fiancée's mental health started declining. They refused to get help. We just kept talking in circles for months and months. They eventually spiraled to the point of a complete mental breakdown, and once I became scared for my safety, I left.
- 541 VOTES
Their Partner Wanted An Open Relationship
From Redditor u/Karmachinery:
I was unable to live with a spouse that wanted an open relationship. We almost never argued during our entire relationship and were, what I thought... best friends. I didn't look at the warning signs though and ignored far too many red flags. Finally, it was just easier to throw in the towel rather than deal with changes in a relationship that I couldn't handle.
- 641 VOTES
They Realized They Weren't Happy
From Redditor u/BellicoseAtrophy:
A friend of mine asked me if I was happy. Of course, I immediately said yes. She kept asking until I actually thought about it before answering. That started the long process of realizing I was miserable, I could do better, and I could leave.