Culture Red Flags That Mean Your Boyfriend Will Be a Dud in a Year  

Ashley Reign
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List Rules Vote up the biggest red flags that mean a guy's got a REALLY short relationship shelf-life.

Is your dude always talking about himself? Or does he humblebrag about his former sexual conquests, like he doesn't have a clue how that might make you feel? Stuff like this can sometimes be innocent - naive, perhaps - but these behaviors could also be relationship red flags. If you're dating a guy and you're trying to figure out how to know he is the one, watch out for the dating red flags below. They might just mean you're dude's gonna turn out a dud after you two settle into a relationship together. 


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692 244
Being selfish and always putting his needs first

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754 276
Never following through on things, then making excuses about why

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581 203
The seeming, constant inability to be thoughtful or attentive

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668 256
Being unable to admit it when he's wrong

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680 281
Being rude, condescending, or excessivly teasing

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574 228
Being seemingly incapable of empathy

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514 199
Constantly shifting the focus away from you - and to himself

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607 256
Using rationalizations like "I'm just being honest" to justify hurting your feelings

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684 306
Showing more interest in his phone than you

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629 289
Being unable to listen without constantly interrupting

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532 241
Drinking a lot or using drugs all the time

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490 221
Expecting you to always clean up after him

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519 241
Being laid back to the point that he has no ambitions at all

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472 214
Dropping weird, vague hints instead of communicating clearly, like a normal person

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499 234
Constantly complaining and having an overly pessimistic outlook on life

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516 252
Being too controlling, jealous, or clingy

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497 269
Dropping hints and humblebragging about his "player" lifestyle or excessively promiscuous past

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424 260
Making sexist, racist, or homophobic comments

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122 44
Sarah Rasch added Being Secretive and Deceitful.

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379 233
Not being able to keep himself and/or his environment reasonably clean

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433 275
Being disrespectful to waiters or retail workers

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268 154
Judyt added Putting You Down Publicly and Privately:

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361 234
Being excessively sarcastic or having major trouble being sincere

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369 247
Constantly expecting you to pick up the bill

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327 256
Being a total push-over and/or incapable of making his own decisions

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322 265
Not having a life, friends, or hobbies of his own

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92 71
Sarah Rasch added Not Including You or Not Inviting You When He Goes Somewhere

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60 85
Sheila Jenkins added Comparing You to Your Face With Women He Thinks Are Hotter.