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Red Flags That Mean Your Boyfriend Will Be a Dud in a Year

Updated February 19, 2020 21.6k votes 2.1k voters 61.3k views28 items

List RulesVote up the biggest red flags that mean a guy's got a REALLY short relationship shelf-life.

Is your dude always talking about himself? Or does he humblebrag about his former conquests, like he doesn't have a clue how that might make you feel? Stuff like this can sometimes be innocent - naive, perhaps - but these behaviors could also be relationship red flags. If you're dating a guy and you're trying to figure out how to know he is the one, watch out for the dating red flags below. They might just mean you're dude's gonna turn out a dud after you two settle into a relationship together. 

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    Being selfish and always putting his needs first

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    Never following through on things, then making excuses about why

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    The seeming, constant inability to be thoughtful or attentive

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    Being unable to admit it when he's wrong

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    Being seemingly incapable of empathy

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    Showing more interest in his phone than you

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    Being rude, condescending, or excessivly teasing

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    Constantly shifting the focus away from you - and to himself

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    Being Secretive and Deceitful.

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    Using rationalizations like "I'm just being honest" to justify hurting your feelings

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    Dropping weird, vague hints instead of communicating clearly, like a normal person

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    Constantly complaining and having an overly pessimistic outlook on life

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    Expecting you to always clean up after him

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    Being unable to listen without constantly interrupting

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    Being laid back to the point that he has no ambitions at all

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    Drinking a lot or using all the time

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    Being too controlling, jealous, or clingy

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    Putting You Down Publicly and Privately:

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    Dropping hints and humblebragging about his "player" lifestyle or excessively promiscuous past

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    Being excessively sarcastic or having major trouble being sincere

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    Making sexist, racist, or homophobic comments

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    Not being able to keep himself and/or his environment reasonably clean

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    Being disrespectful to waiters or retail workers

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    Constantly expecting you to pick up the bill

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    Not Including You or Not Inviting You When He Goes Somewhere