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Red Flags That Mean Your Boyfriend Will Be a Dud in a Year 

Ashley Reign
Updated February 19, 2020 23.4k votes 2.1k voters 60.3k views 28 items

List Rules Vote up the biggest red flags that mean a guy's got a REALLY short relationship shelf-life.

Is your dude always talking about himself? Or does he humblebrag about his former conquests, like he doesn't have a clue how that might make you feel? Stuff like this can sometimes be innocent - naive, perhaps - but these behaviors could also be relationship red flags. If you're dating a guy and you're trying to figure out how to know he is the one, watch out for the dating red flags below. They might just mean you're dude's gonna turn out a dud after you two settle into a relationship together. 

list ordered by
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Being selfish and always putting his needs first
2
Never following through on things, then making excuses about why
3
Being unable to admit it when he's wrong
4
The seeming, constant inability to be thoughtful or attentive
5
Being rude, condescending, or excessivly teasing
6
Being seemingly incapable of empathy
7
Showing more interest in his phone than you
8
Using rationalizations like "I'm just being honest" to justify hurting your feelings
9
Constantly shifting the focus away from you - and to himself
10
Being unable to listen without constantly interrupting
11

Drinking a lot or using all the time

12
Dropping weird, vague hints instead of communicating clearly, like a normal person
13
Expecting you to always clean up after him
14
Constantly complaining and having an overly pessimistic outlook on life
15
Being laid back to the point that he has no ambitions at all
16
Being too controlling, jealous, or clingy
17
Dropping hints and humblebragging about his "player" lifestyle or excessively promiscuous past
18
Making sexist, racist, or homophobic comments
19
Not being able to keep himself and/or his environment reasonably clean
20
Being excessively sarcastic or having major trouble being sincere
21
Being disrespectful to waiters or retail workers
22
Judyt added Putting You Down Publicly and Privately:
23
Sarah Rasch added Being Secretive and Deceitful.
24
Constantly expecting you to pick up the bill
25
Being a total push-over and/or incapable of making his own decisions