List Rules Vote up the biggest red flags that mean a guy's got a REALLY short relationship shelf-life.
Is your dude always talking about himself? Or does he humblebrag about his former sexual conquests, like he doesn't have a clue how that might make you feel? Stuff like this can sometimes be innocent - naive, perhaps - but these behaviors could also be relationship red flags. If you're dating a guy and you're trying to figure out how to know he is the one, watch out for the dating red flags below. They might just mean you're dude's gonna turn out a dud after you two settle into a relationship together.
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Being selfish and always putting his needs first
Never following through on things, then making excuses about why
The seeming, constant inability to be thoughtful or attentive
Being unable to admit it when he's wrong
Being rude, condescending, or excessivly teasing
Being seemingly incapable of empathy
Constantly shifting the focus away from you - and to himself
Using rationalizations like "I'm just being honest" to justify hurting your feelings
Showing more interest in his phone than you
Being unable to listen without constantly interrupting
Drinking a lot or using drugs all the time
Being laid back to the point that he has no ambitions at all
Expecting you to always clean up after him
Constantly complaining and having an overly pessimistic outlook on life
Dropping weird, vague hints instead of communicating clearly, like a normal person
Being too controlling, jealous, or clingy
Dropping hints and humblebragging about his "player" lifestyle or excessively promiscuous past
Not being able to keep himself and/or his environment reasonably clean
Sarah Rasch added Being Secretive and Deceitful.
Making sexist, racist, or homophobic comments
Judyt added Putting You Down Publicly and Privately:
Being disrespectful to waiters or retail workers
Being excessively sarcastic or having major trouble being sincere
Constantly expecting you to pick up the bill
Being a total push-over and/or incapable of making his own decisions
not on the list? add item #29
List Rules: Vote up the biggest red flags that mean a guy's got a REALLY short relationship shelf-life.