Relationships Red Flags That Mean Your Boyfriend Will Be a Dud in a Year  

Ashley Reign
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List Rules Vote up the biggest red flags that mean a guy's got a REALLY short relationship shelf-life.

Is your dude always talking about himself? Or does he humblebrag about his former sexual conquests, like he doesn't have a clue how that might make you feel? Stuff like this can sometimes be innocent - naive, perhaps - but these behaviors could also be relationship red flags. If you're dating a guy and you're trying to figure out how to know he is the one, watch out for the dating red flags below. They might just mean you're dude's gonna turn out a dud after you two settle into a relationship together. 


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1
736 261
Being selfish and always putting his needs first

2
794 289
Never following through on things, then making excuses about why

3
613 221
The seeming, constant inability to be thoughtful or attentive

4
703 276
Being unable to admit it when he's wrong

5
710 295
Being rude, condescending, or excessivly teasing

6
602 245
Being seemingly incapable of empathy

7
539 215
Constantly shifting the focus away from you - and to himself

8
631 272
Using rationalizations like "I'm just being honest" to justify hurting your feelings

9
711 323
Showing more interest in his phone than you

10
647 309
Being unable to listen without constantly interrupting

11
553 260
Drinking a lot or using drugs all the time

12
546 256
Being laid back to the point that he has no ambitions at all

13
511 238
Expecting you to always clean up after him

14
524 247
Constantly complaining and having an overly pessimistic outlook on life

15
492 231
Dropping weird, vague hints instead of communicating clearly, like a normal person

16
532 269
Being too controlling, jealous, or clingy

17
514 288
Dropping hints and humblebragging about his "player" lifestyle or excessively promiscuous past

18
399 248
Not being able to keep himself and/or his environment reasonably clean

19
141 60
Sarah Rasch added Being Secretive and Deceitful.

20
437 280
Making sexist, racist, or homophobic comments

21
284 171
Judyt added Putting You Down Publicly and Privately:

22
442 297
Being disrespectful to waiters or retail workers

23
378 249
Being excessively sarcastic or having major trouble being sincere

24
379 270
Constantly expecting you to pick up the bill

25
345 272
Being a total push-over and/or incapable of making his own decisions