Relationships Red Flags That Mean Your Boyfriend Will Be a Dud in a Year  

Ashley Reign
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List Rules Vote up the biggest red flags that mean a guy's got a REALLY short relationship shelf-life.

Is your dude always talking about himself? Or does he humblebrag about his former sexual conquests, like he doesn't have a clue how that might make you feel? Stuff like this can sometimes be innocent - naive, perhaps - but these behaviors could also be relationship red flags. If you're dating a guy and you're trying to figure out how to know he is the one, watch out for the dating red flags below. They might just mean you're dude's gonna turn out a dud after you two settle into a relationship together. 


list ordered by

1
719 254
Being selfish and always putting his needs first

2
778 285
Never following through on things, then making excuses about why

3
600 215
The seeming, constant inability to be thoughtful or attentive

4
691 268
Being unable to admit it when he's wrong

5
699 290
Being rude, condescending, or excessivly teasing

6
592 239
Being seemingly incapable of empathy

7
529 210
Constantly shifting the focus away from you - and to himself

8
621 265
Using rationalizations like "I'm just being honest" to justify hurting your feelings

9
702 314
Showing more interest in his phone than you

10
639 301
Being unable to listen without constantly interrupting

11
547 250
Drinking a lot or using drugs all the time

12
537 247
Being laid back to the point that he has no ambitions at all

13
502 231
Expecting you to always clean up after him

14
514 242
Constantly complaining and having an overly pessimistic outlook on life

15
482 226
Dropping weird, vague hints instead of communicating clearly, like a normal person

16
525 263
Being too controlling, jealous, or clingy

17
507 281
Dropping hints and humblebragging about his "player" lifestyle or excessively promiscuous past

18
392 242
Not being able to keep himself and/or his environment reasonably clean

19
134 54
Sarah Rasch added Being Secretive and Deceitful.

20
432 273
Making sexist, racist, or homophobic comments

21
279 163
Judyt added Putting You Down Publicly and Privately:

22
440 288
Being disrespectful to waiters or retail workers

23
372 244
Being excessively sarcastic or having major trouble being sincere

24
377 260
Constantly expecting you to pick up the bill

25
336 267
Being a total push-over and/or incapable of making his own decisions

26
329 277
Not having a life, friends, or hobbies of his own

27
103 81
Sarah Rasch added Not Including You or Not Inviting You When He Goes Somewhere

28
66 99
Sheila Jenkins added Comparing You to Your Face With Women He Thinks Are Hotter.