Culture Red Flags That Mean Your Boyfriend Will Be a Dud in a Year  

Ashley Reign
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List Rules Vote up the biggest red flags that mean a guy's got a REALLY short relationship shelf-life.

Is your dude always talking about himself? Or does he humblebrag about his former sexual conquests, like he doesn't have a clue how that might make you feel? Stuff like this can sometimes be innocent - naive, perhaps - but these behaviors could also be relationship red flags. If you're dating a guy and you're trying to figure out how to know he is the one, watch out for the dating red flags below. They might just mean you're dude's gonna turn out a dud after you two settle into a relationship together. 


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660 235
Being selfish and always putting his needs first

2
729 268
Never following through on things, then making excuses about why

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554 196
The seeming, constant inability to be thoughtful or attentive

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641 252
Being unable to admit it when he's wrong

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553 222
Being seemingly incapable of empathy

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656 277
Being rude, condescending, or excessivly teasing

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493 195
Constantly shifting the focus away from you - and to himself

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589 249
Using rationalizations like "I'm just being honest" to justify hurting your feelings

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666 300
Showing more interest in his phone than you

10
608 284
Being unable to listen without constantly interrupting

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515 234
Drinking a lot or using drugs all the time

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470 216
Expecting you to always clean up after him

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452 208
Dropping weird, vague hints instead of communicating clearly, like a normal person

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496 236
Being laid back to the point that he has no ambitions at all

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478 230
Constantly complaining and having an overly pessimistic outlook on life

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497 247
Being too controlling, jealous, or clingy

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483 260
Dropping hints and humblebragging about his "player" lifestyle or excessively promiscuous past

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408 254
Making sexist, racist, or homophobic comments

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366 225
Not being able to keep himself and/or his environment reasonably clean

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417 269
Being disrespectful to waiters or retail workers

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252 148
Judyt added Putting You Down Publicly and Privately:

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346 229
Being excessively sarcastic or having major trouble being sincere

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102 42
Sarah Rasch added Being Secretive and Deceitful.

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355 241
Constantly expecting you to pick up the bill

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317 247
Being a total push-over and/or incapable of making his own decisions

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311 257
Not having a life, friends, or hobbies of his own

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80 64
Sarah Rasch added Not Including You or Not Inviting You When He Goes Somewhere

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47 80
Sheila Jenkins added Comparing You to Your Face With Women He Thinks Are Hotter.