Relationships Red Flags That Mean Your Boyfriend Will Be a Dud in a Year  

Ashley Reign
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List Rules Vote up the biggest red flags that mean a guy's got a REALLY short relationship shelf-life.

Is your dude always talking about himself? Or does he humblebrag about his former sexual conquests, like he doesn't have a clue how that might make you feel? Stuff like this can sometimes be innocent - naive, perhaps - but these behaviors could also be relationship red flags. If you're dating a guy and you're trying to figure out how to know he is the one, watch out for the dating red flags below. They might just mean you're dude's gonna turn out a dud after you two settle into a relationship together. 


list ordered by

1
730 258
Being selfish and always putting his needs first

2
788 289
Never following through on things, then making excuses about why

3
607 221
The seeming, constant inability to be thoughtful or attentive

4
699 274
Being unable to admit it when he's wrong

5
707 293
Being rude, condescending, or excessivly teasing

6
598 244
Being seemingly incapable of empathy

7
535 214
Constantly shifting the focus away from you - and to himself

8
627 270
Using rationalizations like "I'm just being honest" to justify hurting your feelings

9
707 322
Showing more interest in his phone than you

10
644 307
Being unable to listen without constantly interrupting

11
551 257
Drinking a lot or using drugs all the time

12
542 255
Being laid back to the point that he has no ambitions at all

13
508 236
Expecting you to always clean up after him

14
520 246
Constantly complaining and having an overly pessimistic outlook on life

15
488 229
Dropping weird, vague hints instead of communicating clearly, like a normal person

16
528 268
Being too controlling, jealous, or clingy

17
511 286
Dropping hints and humblebragging about his "player" lifestyle or excessively promiscuous past

18
139 58
Sarah Rasch added Being Secretive and Deceitful.

19
396 247
Not being able to keep himself and/or his environment reasonably clean

20
435 278
Making sexist, racist, or homophobic comments

21
282 169
Judyt added Putting You Down Publicly and Privately:

22
441 295
Being disrespectful to waiters or retail workers

23
377 247
Being excessively sarcastic or having major trouble being sincere

24
378 267
Constantly expecting you to pick up the bill

25
341 272
Being a total push-over and/or incapable of making his own decisions

26
333 282
Not having a life, friends, or hobbies of his own

27
109 84
Sarah Rasch added Not Including You or Not Inviting You When He Goes Somewhere

28
68 105
Sheila Jenkins added Comparing You to Your Face With Women He Thinks Are Hotter.