Culture Red Flags That Mean Your Boyfriend Will Be a Dud in a Year  

Ashley Reign
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List Rules Vote up the biggest red flags that mean a guy's got a REALLY short relationship shelf-life.

Is your dude always talking about himself? Or does he humblebrag about his former sexual conquests, like he doesn't have a clue how that might make you feel? Stuff like this can sometimes be innocent - naive, perhaps - but these behaviors could also be relationship red flags. If you're dating a guy and you're trying to figure out how to know he is the one, watch out for the dating red flags below. They might just mean you're dude's gonna turn out a dud after you two settle into a relationship together. 


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1
708 249
Being selfish and always putting his needs first

2
767 282
Never following through on things, then making excuses about why

3
591 209
The seeming, constant inability to be thoughtful or attentive

4
677 266
Being unable to admit it when he's wrong

5
691 285
Being rude, condescending, or excessivly teasing

6
524 204
Constantly shifting the focus away from you - and to himself

7
582 235
Being seemingly incapable of empathy

8
617 261
Using rationalizations like "I'm just being honest" to justify hurting your feelings

9
695 311
Showing more interest in his phone than you

10
636 296
Being unable to listen without constantly interrupting

11
542 245
Drinking a lot or using drugs all the time

12
529 245
Being laid back to the point that he has no ambitions at all

13
496 228
Expecting you to always clean up after him

14
508 238
Constantly complaining and having an overly pessimistic outlook on life

15
479 221
Dropping weird, vague hints instead of communicating clearly, like a normal person

16
523 258
Being too controlling, jealous, or clingy

17
504 276
Dropping hints and humblebragging about his "player" lifestyle or excessively promiscuous past

18
130 50
Sarah Rasch added Being Secretive and Deceitful.

19
386 239
Not being able to keep himself and/or his environment reasonably clean

20
276 160
Judyt added Putting You Down Publicly and Privately:

21
426 271
Making sexist, racist, or homophobic comments

22
438 283
Being disrespectful to waiters or retail workers

23
368 240
Being excessively sarcastic or having major trouble being sincere

24
374 255
Constantly expecting you to pick up the bill

25
332 264
Being a total push-over and/or incapable of making his own decisions

26
327 273
Not having a life, friends, or hobbies of his own

27
99 78
Sarah Rasch added Not Including You or Not Inviting You When He Goes Somewhere

28
64 94
Sheila Jenkins added Comparing You to Your Face With Women He Thinks Are Hotter.