Reddit Red Flags That Mean Your Boyfriend Will Be a Dud in a Year  

Ashley Reign
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List Rules Vote up the biggest red flags that mean a guy's got a REALLY short relationship shelf-life.

Is your dude always talking about himself? Or does he humblebrag about his former sexual conquests, like he doesn't have a clue how that might make you feel? Stuff like this can sometimes be innocent - naive, perhaps - but these behaviors could also be relationship red flags. If you're dating a guy and you're trying to figure out how to know he is the one, watch out for the dating red flags below. They might just mean you're dude's gonna turn out a dud after you two settle into a relationship together. 


list ordered by

1
744 265
Being selfish and always putting his needs first

2
802 292
Never following through on things, then making excuses about why

3
619 224
The seeming, constant inability to be thoughtful or attentive

4
712 277
Being unable to admit it when he's wrong

5
719 296
Being rude, condescending, or excessivly teasing

6
613 246
Being seemingly incapable of empathy

7
545 218
Constantly shifting the focus away from you - and to himself

8
638 273
Using rationalizations like "I'm just being honest" to justify hurting your feelings

9
719 325
Showing more interest in his phone than you

10
653 311
Being unable to listen without constantly interrupting

11
561 262
Drinking a lot or using drugs all the time

12
552 259
Being laid back to the point that he has no ambitions at all

13
519 240
Expecting you to always clean up after him

14
531 250
Constantly complaining and having an overly pessimistic outlook on life

15
500 232
Dropping weird, vague hints instead of communicating clearly, like a normal person

16
537 271
Being too controlling, jealous, or clingy

17
517 290
Dropping hints and humblebragging about his "player" lifestyle or excessively promiscuous past

18
150 61
Sarah Rasch added Being Secretive and Deceitful.

19
444 281
Making sexist, racist, or homophobic comments

20
403 251
Not being able to keep himself and/or his environment reasonably clean

21
292 171
Judyt added Putting You Down Publicly and Privately:

22
386 250
Being excessively sarcastic or having major trouble being sincere

23
443 301
Being disrespectful to waiters or retail workers

24
381 274
Constantly expecting you to pick up the bill

25
350 275
Being a total push-over and/or incapable of making his own decisions