Weirdly Interesting How To Successfully Flirt, According To Science  

Donn Saylor
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Some people have no issues when it comes to flirting... others do spectacular faceplants just looking at their crushes. Fortunately, science does more than just send us to the Moon and help cure our diseases; science has also given us pointers on how to successfully flirt. From an evolutionary perspective, our biology is hardwired to find potential mates, and there are certain things we all find attractive on a fundamentally organic level.

So, while we can all agree that guy at the bar with the gold chains, shirt unbuttoned to the navel, and ridiculous pickup lines will probably have a hard time finding a bedmate for the night, there are some scientifically proven ways to flirt that even he could implement with relative ease. Though we may say otherwise, humans have a natural need for love and sex, and we can all benefit from knowing how to draw more of these things into our lives.

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Have A Sense Of Humor

Yes, we have a biological need for sex. But we also have a biological need to laugh, and these days, it can be tough to say which is more important or central to the survival of our species. Injecting a bit of humor into your flirtations makes you instantly more likeable, plus a good laugh can diffuse awkwardness and ratchet down any tension that might be in the air. Be careful, though, when using humor in your flirting. The wrong joke - or a joke that hurts more than it amuses, regardless of who it's about - could send the exact opposite message you were hoping to impart.

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Compliment Them

Even if apathetic is your type, consider giving out a few compliments while flirting. No one is immune to a genuine, thoughtful compliment. In fact, we have a biochemical reaction when people say nice things about us. When someone gives us a flattering remark, the reward center of our brain lights upPaying a potential mate a compliment is an ideal way to flirt and get your message across. Just avoid the cheesy, lame, and overused compliments out there. Say something genuine - and in an appropriate moment - and you will make a lasting and positive impression.

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Women: Be Direct; Men: Ask Questions

Men respond when their partners or potential partners are direct and to the point. They like to hear what a partner's intentions are up front, leaving little room for ambiguity or guesswork. Alternately, women respond more to innocent questions and general conversation-starters. Oh, and those trite pickup lines? No one responds to those.

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Touch Their Arm

Touch is one of those things that needs to be handled with a bit of finesse. It's rarely advisable to touch strangers, especially in ways that feel overly familiar or too pushy. Yet when you're flirting and can sense a level of interest coming from the other party, a well-placed hand and a light touch can speak volumes. Placing a hand briefly on their arm or "accidentally" brushing their arm as you reach for something can send signals that you're interested but also respectful of boundaries. And while this should go without saying, stop touching someone if they ask you to stop or send clear indicators they aren't interested.

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