Guys' Secrets That Women Don't Know About

Voting Rules
Men only: vote up the men's secrets you believe are true.

The secrets men keep from women can be intimate or hilarious, but they're overall incredibly enlightening. Society seemingly encourages men to be stoic, emotionless, and gross, just as it encourages women to be meek, agreeable, and nurturing. But when guys reveal the things that really happen in their heads, it's evident males and females are not so dissimilar. Members of all genders tend to like human touch and compassion, for example. 

In revealing their deepest secrets, the men on Reddit aren't afraid to get vulnerable. Not all of their confessions are sweet, but many are - and many women will be better off for knowing.

  • 1
    2,262 VOTES

    It's Better To Be Direct When You Want Something From Them

    From Redditor /u/K2000kidd:

    We don't get the hint. Saying, "I almost broke my neck in the driveway," is not the same as asking us to shovel it. In my mind I'm thinking, "Thanks for the heads-up, I'll be careful."

    2,262 votes
  • 2
    1,985 VOTES

    They Tend To Love Women's Hair

    From Redditor /u/banjohusky95:

    We really do think your hair is good. It looked good before and after you got a haircut. It looked good curly, and it looked good straight. It looked good when you woke up and when you made it. As long as it's shaped like the hair we gave girls on stick figures when we were 5 years old, we think it looks good.

    1,985 votes
  • 3
    1,996 VOTES

    Men Like When You Take An Interest In Their Hobbies

    From Redditor /u/BlueLantern84:

    If we have a goofy hobby and you take interest in it, even the slightest, we love it.

    I'm a big gamer and my wife (who also games but not the same ones I play) will often watch what I'm doing, ask about the game, and generally take an interest.

    Her saying, "Oh, are you looking forward to Anthem?" is really cool and I appreciate her interest. It'd be so easy for her to pay no attention, and her doing so makes a big difference.

    1,996 votes
  • 4
    1,998 VOTES

    They Try To Solve Problems

    From Redditor /u/realbadaccountant:

    When people come crying to us, our first inclination is to fix the problem.

    Since this is (often) not possible, lead with something along the lines of, "Can I vent for a minute?" Or anything that signals to us this is just a time for active listening, rather than a problem-solving session.

    1,998 votes
  • 5
    1,804 VOTES

    They Vividly Remember Compliments

    From a Redditor:

    If you compliment my appearance I will probably remember forever.

    I still remember when a girl in college told me I look nice with my beard when I first grew it out. I've had a beard ever since.

    1,804 votes
  • 6
    1,783 VOTES

    They Have Complicated Storylines Playing In Their Heads Sometimes

    From a Redditor:

    That when you ask me what I'm thinking, and I say it's "nothing," it's just that it would take too much effort to explain why I'm deciding if Bruce Lee trapped in a Bionicle would be able to fight off waves of small animals like the Pickle Rick scene.

    1,783 votes