You’re happy with your current partner. You’ve been together for years; this is the one that’s going to last. They make you happy, you make them happy. But is that what you really want? Could it be that you secretly want out? Could it be that you're sabotaging your relationship without even knowing it? It’s true, sometimes we have no idea what we actually want in life.
Here’s how you're ruining your relationship without even knowing it. Don’t think that’s possible? Think you would be aware if you were doing that? Think again.
Spending too much time with friends? Do you talk about your ex a lot? Do you rummage through your partner’s phone? Those could all be signs you're secretly sabotaging your relationship. Read about those ways you may be putting your love life at risk and more in the list below.
You Always Have To Be Right
Are you more concerned with being right – thereby making your partner wrong – than with actually getting to the truth of the matter? If you're in an argument with your significant other and always feel the need to be right, chances are, there is not going to be any progress and growth within the relationship.
No one on the planet earth is right 100% of the time. That's just a plain fact.
You Would Rather Go Out With Friends
Of course, a person should put time away for friends. Having a life outside of a relationship is important. But if you're making plans with friends five nights a week and ignoring your significant other, or not giving them enough time, then chances are, you're looking for a way out.
You Cancel Plans Regularly
People don't like to get canceled on. It's disappointing and can make a person feel unworthy. Sure, emergencies happen, and you may need to cancel plans. However, if canceling becomes the rule rather than the exception, then chances are you're looking for a way out of a relationship.
You Stay In Touch With Exes
Of course, there are instances when an ex was a friend before a relationship and you want to continue a friendship with them. For the most part, however, if you're in a relationship, your partner probably feels threatened if you're staying in touch with your exes.
Think about why you bother to stay in touch with the past? Are you hoping that something crops up again? Are you using your ex as some kind of safety net?