Signs You're Sabotaging Your Relationship Without Even Knowing It

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You’re happy with your current partner. You’ve been together for years; this is the one that’s going to last. They make you happy, you make them happy. But is that what you really want? Could it be that you secretly want out? Could it be that you're sabotaging your relationship without even knowing it? It’s true, sometimes we have no idea what we actually want in life.

Here’s how you're ruining your relationship without even knowing it. Don’t think that’s possible? Think you would be aware if you were doing that? Think again.

Spending too much time with friends? Do you talk about your ex a lot? Do you rummage through your partner’s phone? Those could all be signs you're secretly sabotaging your relationship. Read about those ways you may be putting your love life at risk and more in the list below.

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  • 1
    94 VOTES

    You Stop Fulfilling Their Romantic Needs

    Is there something your partner enjoys romantically that you've been avoiding for no real reason? Your significant other will know when you've lost interest in satisfying them. 

    94 votes
  • 2
    86 VOTES

    You Stop Making The Other Person Feel Good

    You don't compliment your significant other anymore. You don't tell them how great you think they are, or how much you appreciate them. Basically, you stop saying things that make them feel good. A little compliment goes a long way, and it's really obvious when the niceties just stop.

    86 votes
  • 3
    111 VOTES

    You Nitpick Over Every Little Thing

    There's a stray hair in the sink! You're driving too fast! I hate the way you eat corn! You're playing your music too loud! I told you to text me right after lunch!

    No one wants to be ridiculed, put down, or called out over every little thing that they do. Constant nitpicking is one sure way to drive your partner away.

    111 votes
  • 4
    95 VOTES

    You Always Have To Be Right

    Are you more concerned with being right – thereby making your partner wrong – than with actually getting to the truth of the matter? If you're in an argument with your significant other and always feel the need to be right, chances are, there is not going to be any progress and growth within the relationship.

    No one on the planet earth is right 100% of the time. That's just a plain fact.

    95 votes
  • 5
    88 VOTES

    You Never Really Forgive Or Forget

    Are you holding something over your partner that happened six months ago? Maybe he or she screwed up, but you talked it out and they apologized. If you absolutely can't let things go, especially small things, then you're probably emotionally looking for a way to exit a relationship.

    88 votes
  • 6
    74 VOTES

    You Refuse To Change

    Being totally set in your ways is usually not a good thing for a growing partnership. Having a long-term relationship requires sacrifice. If you're not willing to make changes to any part of your lifestyle, then it's never going to work.

    74 votes