Whether you're the oldest child, the baby, or smack in the middle, birth order matters. Being the center, but not the center of attention, can be an especially polarizing place in the sibling hierarchy. When middle children share their stories about what it was like growing up, middle child syndrome seems like a genuine issue.
The idea that parents treat middle children differently from their siblings ties into the belief that parents, subconsciously or deliberately, change their parenting behavior for individual kids. They might pamper or treat the youngest sibling like a baby, or allow them to get away with more. Parents might pressure the oldest child to excel, meanwhile. And they might be more easygoing with middle children, but at the same time pay less attention to them.
Middle children who share their stories on Reddit help shed light on what it's like to occupy this midway family position.
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Everyone Ignores You
From Redditor /u/omgimabagel:
Middle child here, I've always felt less important than the other two. The younger was always the one doing the best in school (learning from the older and my mistakes), and the older was always focused on the most since he was growing up first and would need the most guidance.
Basically, I was just not getting any attention, but that ended up being a good thing I think because it made me more independent now.Do you relate?
- 2202 VOTES
You End Up Taking The Blame
From Redditor /u/sayaandtenshi:
Well, I'm a middle child and here is why I'm the most bothered. My older sister, when she used to live here, would get away with everything, absolutely everything but I couldn't copy her because I would get in trouble. My little sister, being babied by my mom and dad, would also get away with everything because she was still learning, but I should know better than to do what she does.
So I always was in the most trouble and got blamed for pretty much everything.Do you relate?
- 3204 VOTES
You Are Not Going To Be The Favorite
From Redditor /u/Algaefuels:
Middle child age-wise: Never was the favorite, and often the least favorite.Do you relate?
- 4170 VOTES
The Other Siblings Get All The Attention
From Redditor /u/SpookyImmobilisedToe:
Middle child gets less attention paid to them which kinda sucks, but then again it's easier to do random sh*t unnoticed.Do you relate?