Posted on Reddit by u/A_Whole_Nother_888
My husband (44m) and I (43f) have been together for 20 years and homeowners for 14. My husband insists upon keeping our two trash cans in our driveway, right outside our garage for all the neighbors to see. I would like to keep them inside the garage instead.
Here is his only given reason for insisting that the garbage cans remain outside in front of our garage:
Garbage cans inside the garage stink.
Here are the reasons why I want the garbage cans in the garage:
When the cans are outside, usually no one in our family of 5 wants/bothers to open the garage door to walk trash bags out there. For me personally, I don't do it often because one, you have to be adequately dressed to run into your neighbors and two, you may be captured in unwanted conversation with neighbor while you're out there. Therefore, we pile bags of garbage (5-6 bags, plus boxes per week) into the center of the garage floor until trash day when we put it into cans and take to curb. Our garage floor literally looks like a trash dump most of the time! When I do open the garage, my neighbors see my trash dump and I feel humiliated and embarrassed. I want to tell them that I would never want to live this way, but I am being forced. He doesn't care about my embarrassment.
I'd like to park my car in the garage, but the open spot is used as the dump. If we had the trash cans, they'd use up less space and I'd have room for my car. He says he doesn't care about parking cars in garage. I point out that most of our neighbors park in their garage. He doesn't care. I told him that when it's cold or rainy, parking in garage is a big help to me. He said it's not a big deal to park outside.
I think trash cans in full view of neighborhood is ugly and rude to neighbors. They don't keep their garage cans in full view! Everyone else hides their cans or keeps them in the garage. He says he doesn't care what the neighbors think or want.
I don't notice any smell from the cans when they are inside. He usually replies that the smell happens when you open the lid to insert bags. I said that smell is fleeting. He said it isn't. I say it's not like he spends any time in the garage. Only when he's mowing, in which case the door is open. He says he doesn't care.
Trash bags full of dog poop and diapers on the garage floor is a worse smell than garbage cans that only stink when lids open! He says the cans are worse.
Piles of trash bags attract rodents and bugs. He says they do not and even if they do, he doesn't care.
Every time I bring this topic up, it ends the same way. He says cans will remain outside in front of garage and that's the end of discussion. However, I will not let it go. Sometimes I'm passive-aggressive and bring the cans inside garage everyday (he removes everyday in response). Sometimes I try to reason and sometimes I yell at him. Today I sent him nasty text with pictures of the garbage dump. None of it works. AITA for continuing to fight about this for 14 years?