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Rules You Didn't Know Were in Place for Swingers

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To most "squares," the idea of a swingers party elicits visions of a cramped room full of writhing, sweat-soaked bodies; people uninhibited by "traditional" sexual protocols. 

But, in reality, a sex party is a finely orchestrated get-together that not only requires a good bit of planning, but quite a few rules too. When you’re dealing with a large group of people having sex with one another, there need to be swingers rules in place. These rules at swingers parties make everyone feel safe in the incredibly delicate emotional and physical situation they’re in, and also set the tone for the party. 

It might sound surprising, but without rules, swingers parties just aren't as magical as they're supposed to be. 

  • Voyeurs Have to Stay Quiet

    Some people want to be part of the fun, but not actually partake in it. Voyeurs are those people, and while they're allowed to watch, they're not allowed to speak. The Red Rooster in Las Vegas seems to be pretty adamant about this rule, going so far as to say that once a voyeur finishes whatever they're doing (you know what they're doing) they have to leave. 

  • Stick to What You're Comfortable With

    If you're not sure whether you'll be stepping out of your comfort zone while swinging, just do the stuff you like doing, and keep the sexual experimentation to the privacy of your own home. Sex parties are for having fun, not being freaked out. Also, don't be afraid to turn down someone who want's you to do something you're not comfortable with, just remember to be friendly. 

  • Clean Up Your Own Messes - All of Them

    If you're running around naked in a sex club, the last thing you want to do is sit down in a mysterious wet spot. If you make a mess with a drink - or something else - isn't the point, clean up after yourself and leave the place better off than when you found it. Being a good guest at any party means cleaning up after yourself. 

  • Touch Base with Your Partner Throughout the Evening

    At the Couple's Playhouse in Paradise, one of the biggest rules is you need to stay in touch with your partner throughout the evening so you both know that you're having a fun and safe time. It's safe to assume if you're in the type of relationship where you both feel comfortable going to a swinger's club, you're probably already pretty in tune to your partner's needs and desires. But it's always nice to check in with your guy or girl and check that everything is okay.