Teachers Reveal The Secret Crushes They Had On Students
Teacher student romances are pretty taboo. Despite the societal and legal barriers implicit in such relationships, humans are by their nature imperfect and there's (as of yet) no such thing as thought crimes. As such, there are far more stories about teachers who were in love with their students than you might think. Usually we only hear about the more disturbing version of this scenario: Adults who pine and/or prey on high-school students.
But, things get complicated when you consider that over two-thirds of all high-school graduates attend college where they are taught by adults quite near to their age. Morals can get muddled when age lines blur. Many teachers face the struggle of what to do about students they find attractive and even those students who come on to them. Although it's seldom talked about, Reddit found more than a few teachers who had crushes on students and were willing to admit it.
It's certainly not OK to act on impulses, but better a guilty admission via the safe space of Reddit among those who can relate than any serious indiscretion. Here's a few stories from teachers telling the truth about their feelings toward students.
Wooed By Presents And Homemade Snacks
From ebonyeyeslullaby:
"I was CRAZY about a student I had, from Argentina. Hottest thing ever, made it hard for me to focus, incredibly sexy, was super sweet to me all the time, openly flirted, brought presents and homemade snacks. To be fair, (she) was a year older than me actually. I teach languages and it works that way sometimes.
What did I do? I am a teacher. I taught the best class I could, and secretly fantasized about something that would never be."
A Superficial Crush On A Sweet And Smart Teen
From Totally_Ok_Guy:
"She works at the McDonalds down the street and is about to graduate high school. She's sweet and smart. Pretty little thing, too. What do I do about it? Nothing. She's 18, I'm 25. It's a superficial crush and I get hundreds of them. It doesn't mean much of anything.
I don't lie and say I'm never attracted to my students. However I have never had the inclination to actually do anything about it. It's just something you don't talk about, don't act on, etc.
It's part of the profession. At the end of the day you are there to help (keyword) these people become the best person they could possibly be. There are very little scenarios where you hitting on or having an affair with a student is part of that."
~Frustration~ Comes With The Job
From crozplays:
"We all have (crushes), and if they say they haven't they are lying. I kept my c*ck in my pants and dealt with my blue balls and is it any wonder I have a thing for younger women? Some of them are brutally sexy smart."
Crushes Are Normal, But Life's Not An Adult Film
From Andromeda321:
"I've had the occasional crush on a student (I'm a TA, so we're talking undergrads here) and don't act on it. Everyone gets crushes in life that you don't act on because you know it would be a bad idea, but most people don't go around acting like life is a big p*rno or romance novel."
A Student Of The Same Age Makes Professionalism Difficult
From godbullseye:
"I used to teach swimming when I was in high school and I got hired to teach private lessons to a girl from another school district who was actually my age. This girl was genuinely terrified of water and we had do a lot of up close work like helping her float on her back, showing her how to breathe, etc etc.
Now, mind you the entire time she is in a very unflattering swim suit until she shows up in a two piece when the weather gets warmer. Instant crush and I was smitten. After two weeks her lessons are done and I never see her again."
Don't Sh** Where You Eat
From roborabbit_mama:
"I taught college students (I was 20-22) TEFL (Teaching English as a Foreign Language) while living in China. Admittedly the students have a major crush on my bf (we both did this together), and we were in the same age bracket, so it was awkward.
Another foreign teacher, our age too, was dating a student. They ended up getting married and had a baby girl.
We didn't have a lot of male students in the English classes, but sure some were more attractive than others. I ignored it, if I was single, I might have entertained the idea of dating a student from a different university or college, but everyone knows you don't sh** where you eat."