15 People Who Had Bad Therapists Reveal The Red Flags They Couldn't Ignore

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Vote up the red flags that would have you asking for a second opinion.

Therapy can have massive benefits, but only if you have a therapist who is genuinely helpful. These people are sharing their experiences so you can learn how to know you have a bad therapist. Make sure you vote up the worst red flags that tell you when to get a different therapist.


  • 1
    1,120 VOTES

    They Were Late And Constantly Ranted

    From Redditor u/honestlyanidiot:

    Recently started therapy and had about 5-6 sessions with the same guy. The last two sessions he was either late or had shared some bad news going on in his life, and had multiple uninterrupted rants of 15+ minutes or more where the subject matter was only tangentially at the absolute best (it wasn't). During those rants, name-dropped public figures in my sphere and told secrets about them. Unprofessional and sloppy.

    1,120 votes
  • 2
    1,167 VOTES

    They Were Yawning, Staring, And Not Paying Attention

    From Redditor u/inolongerseethelight:

    I went to see him in emotional distress. At first I thought he was having a bad day. Stifled yawns, staring blankly, needing queues to respond to questions then asking me to repeat the question.

    I served him at my place of work 10 years later. He had no idea that he saved my life because I was so angry I complained to the health commissioner & it gave me a purpose to live to ensure nobody else got that crappy therapy when in dire straits.

    1,167 votes
  • 3
    1,120 VOTES

    They Canceled A Session And Hid When They Saw Their Patient Publicly

    From a Redditor:

    I went to an appointment and the door was locked. I waited 15 minutes and called him. No response. He texted me back a few minutes later and said he had the flu and was in bed and sorry he didn’t call to cancel. I went to the grocery store instead. I saw him shopping. He ducked when he saw me. I never went back to him.

    1,120 votes
  • 4
    1,389 VOTES

    They Complained That Their Patient Only Talked About Themselves

    From a Redditor:

    She stopped me in the middle of a session to tell me that the real problem was that I made everything about myself. Which would have been a valid point, had she not continued "Like right now, you're just talking about yourself, and about your life. Every week you just talk about yourself. You know I just had a baby a few months ago (before I ever started going to her), but you never ask me how that's going. You never ask me about my life, or my friends, or my relationship with my husband. If you're like this with everyone in your life, I can imagine why people don't like being around you." I left super ashamed and never went back.

    1,389 votes
  • 5
    1,310 VOTES

    They Constantly Asked If Their Patient Was On Their Period

    From Redditor u/auntiepink:

    Every session, he asked me if I thought my mood was due to my period.

    1,310 votes
  • 6
    917 VOTES

    They Wanted To Solve THEIR Problems During Someone's Session

    From Redditor u/kelloggflakes:

    One of my therapists, we started solving his problems during the session. Another therapist I had got angry and yelled at me when I canceled an appointment because it had snowed 2 feet and I had to drive over a mountain pass that hadn't been plowed to get to her office. One fell asleep all the time during our sessions.

    917 votes