thought provoking Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With  

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List Rules This is not a regular peeves list, please only vote if you are an introvert

Hi introverts! (You non-introverts don't have to read this, go back to being cheerful or chatting in elevators or whatever). Speaking as one of you, I think I can ask you this because I feel your pain in those social situations that seem to cause normal people no distress whatsoever. What's the worst? The absolute worst thing about your daily grind? The thing that makes you want to curl up under your desk or flatten yourself into the wallpaper in the hopes you will suddenly gain the powers of a chameleon? Vote on the things that make you wish you could turn invisible on command... and add the things I've missed. Rerank them in the order of worst to least worst, if you feel strongly enough about it!

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Not Enough Alone Time It's tough to live in an increasingly connected world when you need alone time to recharge.

18,634 6,494
Parties Full of Strangers Parties are a field of landmines: remembering names and casual conversation.

16,327 6,335
Networking Nothing feels more agonizing than a forced conversation for the sake of selling yourself.

16,645 6,889
Small Talk At the coffee machine or in an elevator, "How's it going?" are the most dreaded words in existence.

14,167 6,566
Meeting New People You probably won't remember their name AND have to make small talk because you don't know them well enough to have a real conversation.

15,017 5,882
clash1977 added Keeping in Touch With People You genuinely want to keep up with loved ones, but reaching out takes time and energy. 

13,626 6,267
Talking on the Phone For Any Reason What did introverts do before texting and email? 

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Group Participation Having to work in forced interactive groups. Team-building exercises are your personal hell. 

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Maryellen Elizabeth added Simultaneously Looking Forward To And Dreading A Fun Event A looming party/happy hour/celebration inspires dread and has you sweating.

12,730 5,332
People Who Can't Handle Silence Silence does not have to be filled all the time. Sometimes, you can have a natural lull in the conversation and it's ok.

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People Trying to Talk To You When You Are Reading You brought the book specifically so no one would try to talk to you... 

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Crowds You're not claustrophobic, but crowds mean casual interaction -- which is so hard.

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Brief or Casual Encounters That Require Chit Chat It's small talk, but with your friends, not strangers. Turns out small talk is still extremely difficult even when, say, running into a good friend while at the grocery store. 

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When People Ask "Are You Ok" Just Because You're Quiet Just because you're quiet doesn't mean there's something wrong.

Things Your Mother Told You... That She Was Right About

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Being Told To 'Relax' And 'Be More Social' Because changing your natural personality is really that simple. 

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Andrea Krause added Needing Validation But Hating Attention You need reassurance too, but compliments and praise mean an uncomfortable amount of attention. 

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Being Ignored When You Do Talk, Because You're Too Quiet Just because you're soft spoken doesn't mean you have nothing to say. 

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AnneHartwigHoppers added People Who Can't Tolerate the Fact That You Do Things Differently Introversion is not a problem to be solved. 

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Never Remembering Names Not ever. It takes constant repetition and exposure to lock those names down.

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Nicole Murdock added Last Minute Plan Changes That Alter Your Whole Day You need to emotionally prepare for social interaction. Changing things up last minute interferes. 

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When Your Friends Invite More People Over A small gathering of people you love talking to has just been turned into an "upcoming event" on Facebook. 

28 Creepy Photos Inspired by Children's Nightmares

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People Who Mistake Your Silence for Judging You're not aloof, and your are not judging -- most likely you are just scanning for the exit.

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SarahLSnyder added Loud Noises You need your quiet time, and sirens, slamming doors, and loud music disrupt that. 

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estevanmunguia added Having To Explain Your Introverted Qualities (Being Quiet, Being Flaky, Etc.) Having to constantly explain or rationalize your demeanor becomes a chore.

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People Who Are Late When you are always on time, people being late means you have to endure awkwardly standing around.

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Jerry Cox added When You're Having Down Time and Someone Comes Over to Speak to You Most of the time, you don't want to chat with a coworker on your lunch break. 

4,507 1,641
Allison Molloy added Having Thoughtful Pauses Interpreted Negatively You need time to think about your words and answer. This shouldn't be a bad thing. 

8,106 4,798
That Your Normal Face Is Called Resting Bitch Face Because you don't smile when you are thoughtful...

19 Everyday Things That Are Making You Dumber

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Having a Hard Time Caring About Things like Birthdays It's not that you don't love your friends and family, but birthdays, celebrations, and holidays make you nervous. 

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Lisa Smith added Being Interrupted Because You Paused To Think Just because you took a second to think doesn't mean you were done talking. 

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Jerry Cox added People Who Keep Talking After You Try To End A Conversation You try to give a polite "Goodbye" or "I'll see you tomorrow" to indicate you're trying to back out, but they don't take the hint. 

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Lisa Borba McPherson added Breaking The Ice Exercises At Work Or School Nothing terrifies you more than, "Let's all go around the room and say something interesting about ourselves." 

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Being Regarded As a Snob or Aloof Because You're Quiet.

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Carly BG added Being Told To "Smile" It gets old. 

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Janice Thibault added Being Told You Are Too Sensitive. Having different boundaries than others should be repsected. 

16 Movie "In Jokes" You Probably Didn't Notice

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Jamie Lambert added Waiting For Roommates Or Household Members To Go To Bed So You Can Wind Down It's not that you don't want to spend time with them. You just desperately need a few hours to yourself. 

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Jerry Cox added People You Barely Know Casually Touching You In Social Situations Friendly hugs and shoulder pats may not seem like a big deal to many, but many introverts have a bigger than average space bubble. 

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-1457002307135 added Overthinking Every Interaction Introverts tend to overanalyze, meaning you can easily get lost in your head by examining everything far too much. 

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Being Called 'Shy' Just because you don't want to engage in small talk doesn't mean you are afraid to.

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Andrea Bond added Trying to Ghost Out of a Party But Getting Caught On the Way Out You're not trying to be rude. You just don't want to deal with all the hugs and goodbyes. 

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RWSyn added People Assuming You're On Their Side In An Argument When You've Said Nothing Silence doesn't imply you're secretly aligning with one party. You just don't like getting involved in drama. 

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Lori Soilwhisperer Guenter added Surprise Parties And Surprises In General Introverts need to prepare for social interaction and outings. For you, a surprise is more stressful than it is appreciated. 

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Alisha Collins added Being Invited to Do Anything That Requires Leaving the House.

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silentintrovert added Having To Repeat Yourself It was stressful enough saying something the first time. 

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Sara Baerlocher added People Conflating Introversion With Being Anti-Social Introverts prefer specific types of social interaction. That doesn't mean they shun it. 

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Being Called 'Intense' The drawback of loving only deeper, meaningful conversations.

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-1457002307135 added Not Getting Invited Because You Seem Too Quiet Or Shy While social interaction can make you anxious, that doesn't mean you hate it. You do want to spend time with others on occasion, so an invite is appreciated. 

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Sue Ridgley Poage added Meeting A Friend Out And Having to Walk Inside the Bar/Restaurant Alone Sitting alone in a public place may lead to unwanted interaction with strangers. You need a trusted friend for security. 

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Philip Foster added Returning To Work After a Long Vacation Everyone hates returning from a vacation. But when socialization is already hard for you, getting back into the swing of daily interactions is extra exhausting.