vote on everything
Culture
37.8k voters

Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With

Updated August 28, 2020 450.5k votes 37.8k voters 272.4k views61 items

List RulesThis is not a regular peeves list, please only vote if you are an introvert

Hi introverts! (You non-introverts don't have to read this, go back to being cheerful or chatting in elevators or whatever). Speaking as one of you, I think I can ask you this because I feel your pain in those social situations that seem to cause normal people no distress whatsoever. What's the worst? The absolute worst thing about your daily grind? The thing that makes you want to curl up under your desk or flatten yourself into the wallpaper in the hopes you will suddenly gain the powers of a chameleon? Vote on the things that make you wish you could turn invisible on command... and add the things I've missed. Rerank them in the order of worst to least worst, if you feel strongly enough about it!
Photo:
  • 26
    764
    165

    Returning To Work After a Long Vacation

    Everyone hates returning from a vacation. But when socialization is already hard for you, getting back into the swing of daily interactions is extra exhausting. 

  • 27
    10,362
    3,936

    People Who Can't Handle Silence

    Silence does not have to be filled all the time. Sometimes, you can have a natural lull in the conversation and it's ok.

  • 28
    7,310
    2,778

    Being Ignored When You Do Talk, Because You're Too Quiet

    Just because you're soft spoken doesn't mean you have nothing to say. 

  • 29
    11,227
    4,731

    Talking on the Phone For Any Reason

    What did introverts do before texting and email? 

  • 30
    7,913
    3,233

    People Who Can't Tolerate the Fact That You Do Things Differently

    Introversion is not a problem to be solved. 

  • 31
    11,446
    4,929

    Meeting New People

    You probably won't remember their name AND have to make small talk because you don't know them well enough to have a real conversation.
  • 32
    593
    144

    Meetings At Work

    Especially when you have to talk or give a presentation. 

  • 33
    8,787
    3,719

    Being Told To 'Relax' And 'Be More Social'

    Because changing your natural personality is really that simple. 

  • 34
    10,932
    4,794

    Group Participation

    Having to work in forced interactive groups. Team-building exercises are your personal hell. 

  • 35
    1,315
    448

    Being Invited to Do Anything That Requires Leaving the House.

  • 36
    7,943
    3,756

    When Your Friends Invite More People Over

    A small gathering of people you love talking to has just been turned into an "upcoming event" on Facebook. 

  • 37
    9,178
    4,356

    Brief or Casual Encounters That Require Chit Chat

    It's small talk, but with your friends, not strangers. Turns out small talk is still extremely difficult even when, say, running into a good friend while at the grocery store. 

  • 38
    2,983
    1,206
  • 39
    8,132
    3,742

    Never Remembering Names

    Not ever. It takes constant repetition and exposure to lock those names down.
  • 40
    8,070
    3,730

    People Who Mistake Your Silence for Judging

    You're not aloof, and your are not judging -- most likely you are just scanning for the exit.

  • 41
    2,022
    804

    Being Told You Are Too Sensitive.

    Having different boundaries than others should be repsected. 

  • 42
    9,687
    4,789

    Crowds

    You're not claustrophobic, but crowds mean casual interaction -- which is so hard.
  • 43
    6,017
    2,853

    Having To Explain Your Introverted Qualities (Being Quiet, Being Flaky, Etc.)

    Having to constantly explain or rationalize your demeanor becomes a chore.
  • 44
    402
    110

    Trying to be friendly

  • 45
    2,770
    1,270

    Trying to Ghost Out of a Party But Getting Caught On the Way Out

    You're not trying to be rude. You just don't want to deal with all the hugs and goodbyes. 

  • 46
    6,554
    3,762

    You need your quiet time, and sirens, slamming doors, and loud music disrupt that. 

  • 47
    1,320
    586

    People Assuming You're On Their Side In An Argument When You've Said Nothing

    Silence doesn't imply you're secretly aligning with one party. You just don't like getting involved in drama. 

  • 48
    6,040
    3,320

    Having a Hard Time Caring About Things like Birthdays

    It's not that you don't love your friends and family, but birthdays, celebrations, and holidays make you nervous. 

  • 49
    6,418
    3,551

    That Your Normal Face Is Called Resting Bitch Face

    Because you don't smile when you are thoughtful...
  • 50
    3,152
    1,596

    People You Barely Know Casually Touching You In Social Situations

    Friendly hugs and shoulder pats may not seem like a big deal to many, but many introverts have a bigger than average space bubble. 

Pollstop 20top 10Thought Provokingtop 25