Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With  

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List Rules This is not a regular peeves list, please only vote if you are an introvert

Hi introverts! (You non-introverts don't have to read this, go back to being cheerful or chatting in elevators or whatever). Speaking as one of you, I think I can ask you this because I feel your pain in those social situations that seem to cause normal people no distress whatsoever. What's the worst? The absolute worst thing about your daily grind? The thing that makes you want to curl up under your desk or flatten yourself into the wallpaper in the hopes you will suddenly gain the powers of a chameleon? Vote on the things that make you wish you could turn invisible on command... and add the things I've missed. Rerank them in the order of worst to least worst, if you feel strongly enough about it!
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Not Enough Alone Time

It's tough to live in an increasingly connected world when you need alone time to recharge.

Parties Full of Strangers
Parties are a field of landmines: remembering names and casual conversation.
Nothing feels more agonizing than a forced conversation for the sake of selling yourself.
Small Talk
At the coffee machine or in an elevator, "How's it going?" are the most dreaded words in existence.
Meeting New People
You probably won't remember their name AND have to make small talk because you don't know them well enough to have a real conversation.
clash1977 added Keeping in Touch With People

You genuinely want to keep up with loved ones, but reaching out takes time and energy. 

Talking on the Phone For Any Reason

What did introverts do before texting and email? 

Group Participation

Having to work in forced interactive groups. Team-building exercises are your personal hell. 

Maryellen Elizabeth added Simultaneously Looking Forward To And Dreading A Fun Event
A looming party/happy hour/celebration inspires dread and has you sweating.
People Who Can't Handle Silence

Silence does not have to be filled all the time. Sometimes, you can have a natural lull in the conversation and it's ok.

You're not claustrophobic, but crowds mean casual interaction -- which is so hard.
People Trying to Talk To You When You Are Reading

You brought the book specifically so no one would try to talk to you... 

Brief or Casual Encounters That Require Chit Chat

It's small talk, but with your friends, not strangers. Turns out small talk is still extremely difficult even when, say, running into a good friend while at the grocery store. 

When People Ask "Are You Ok" Just Because You're Quiet

Just because you're quiet doesn't mean there's something wrong.

Being Told To 'Relax' And 'Be More Social'

Because changing your natural personality is really that simple. 

Andrea Krause added Needing Validation But Hating Attention

You need reassurance too, but compliments and praise mean an uncomfortable amount of attention. 

Being Ignored When You Do Talk, Because You're Too Quiet

Just because you're soft spoken doesn't mean you have nothing to say. 

AnneHartwigHoppers added People Who Can't Tolerate the Fact That You Do Things Differently

Introversion is not a problem to be solved. 

Never Remembering Names
Not ever. It takes constant repetition and exposure to lock those names down.
Nicole Murdock added Last Minute Plan Changes That Alter Your Whole Day

You need to emotionally prepare for social interaction. Changing things up last minute interferes. 

When Your Friends Invite More People Over

A small gathering of people you love talking to has just been turned into an "upcoming event" on Facebook. 

People Who Mistake Your Silence for Judging

You're not aloof, and your are not judging -- most likely you are just scanning for the exit.

SarahLSnyder added

You need your quiet time, and sirens, slamming doors, and loud music disrupt that. 

estevanmunguia added Having To Explain Your Introverted Qualities (Being Quiet, Being Flaky, Etc.)
Having to constantly explain or rationalize your demeanor becomes a chore.
Jerry Cox added When You're Having Down Time and Someone Comes Over to Speak to You

Most of the time, you don't want to chat with a coworker on your lunch break.