Thought Provoking Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With  

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List Rules This is not a regular peeves list, please only vote if you are an introvert

Hi introverts! (You non-introverts don't have to read this, go back to being cheerful or chatting in elevators or whatever). Speaking as one of you, I think I can ask you this because I feel your pain in those social situations that seem to cause normal people no distress whatsoever. What's the worst? The absolute worst thing about your daily grind? The thing that makes you want to curl up under your desk or flatten yourself into the wallpaper in the hopes you will suddenly gain the powers of a chameleon? Vote on the things that make you wish you could turn invisible on command... and add the things I've missed. Rerank them in the order of worst to least worst, if you feel strongly enough about it!
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Not Enough Alone Time

It's tough to live in an increasingly connected world when you need alone time to recharge.

19,025 6,557
Parties Full of Strangers Parties are a field of landmines: remembering names and casual conversation.

16,711 6,393
Networking Nothing feels more agonizing than a forced conversation for the sake of selling yourself.

17,041 6,950
Small Talk At the coffee machine or in an elevator, "How's it going?" are the most dreaded words in existence.

14,487 6,636
Meeting New People You probably won't remember their name AND have to make small talk because you don't know them well enough to have a real conversation.

15,387 5,937
clash1977 added Keeping in Touch With People

You genuinely want to keep up with loved ones, but reaching out takes time and energy. 

13,967 6,347
Talking on the Phone For Any Reason

What did introverts do before texting and email? 

12,059 4,678
Maryellen Elizabeth added Simultaneously Looking Forward To And Dreading A Fun Event A looming party/happy hour/celebration inspires dread and has you sweating.

13,767 6,549
Group Participation

Having to work in forced interactive groups. Team-building exercises are your personal hell. 

13,016 5,381
People Who Can't Handle Silence

Silence does not have to be filled all the time. Sometimes, you can have a natural lull in the conversation and it's ok.

12,822 5,199
People Trying to Talk To You When You Are Reading

You brought the book specifically so no one would try to talk to you... 

12,238 6,557
Crowds You're not claustrophobic, but crowds mean casual interaction -- which is so hard.

11,946 5,898
Brief or Casual Encounters That Require Chit Chat

It's small talk, but with your friends, not strangers. Turns out small talk is still extremely difficult even when, say, running into a good friend while at the grocery store. 

13,150 5,276
When People Ask "Are You Ok" Just Because You're Quiet

Just because you're quiet doesn't mean there's something wrong.

11,100 5,110
Being Told To 'Relax' And 'Be More Social'

Because changing your natural personality is really that simple. 

7,469 2,253
Andrea Krause added Needing Validation But Hating Attention

You need reassurance too, but compliments and praise mean an uncomfortable amount of attention. 

8,716 3,574
Being Ignored When You Do Talk, Because You're Too Quiet

Just because you're soft spoken doesn't mean you have nothing to say. 

9,859 4,452
AnneHartwigHoppers added People Who Can't Tolerate the Fact That You Do Things Differently

Introversion is not a problem to be solved. 

10,467 4,983
Never Remembering Names Not ever. It takes constant repetition and exposure to lock those names down.

8,148 3,382
Nicole Murdock added Last Minute Plan Changes That Alter Your Whole Day

You need to emotionally prepare for social interaction. Changing things up last minute interferes. 

10,196 5,165
When Your Friends Invite More People Over

A small gathering of people you love talking to has just been turned into an "upcoming event" on Facebook. 

10,573 5,110
People Who Mistake Your Silence for Judging

You're not aloof, and your are not judging -- most likely you are just scanning for the exit.

8,153 5,040
SarahLSnyder added

You need your quiet time, and sirens, slamming doors, and loud music disrupt that. 

7,322 3,766
estevanmunguia added Having To Explain Your Introverted Qualities (Being Quiet, Being Flaky, Etc.) Having to constantly explain or rationalize your demeanor becomes a chore.

8,424 5,016
People Who Are Late When you are always on time, people being late means you have to endure awkwardly standing around.

5,566 1,563
Jerry Cox added When You're Having Down Time and Someone Comes Over to Speak to You

Most of the time, you don't want to chat with a coworker on your lunch break. 

4,661 1,671
Allison Molloy added Having Thoughtful Pauses Interpreted Negatively

You need time to think about your words and answer. This shouldn't be a bad thing. 

8,287 4,835
That Your Normal Face Is Called Resting Bitch Face Because you don't smile when you are thoughtful...

2,973 1,020
Lisa Smith added Being Interrupted Because You Paused To Think

Just because you took a second to think doesn't mean you were done talking. 

7,763 4,488
Having a Hard Time Caring About Things like Birthdays

It's not that you don't love your friends and family, but birthdays, celebrations, and holidays make you nervous. 

4,651 1,834
Jerry Cox added People Who Keep Talking After You Try To End A Conversation

You try to give a polite "Goodbye" or "I'll see you tomorrow" to indicate you're trying to back out, but they don't take the hint. 

1,693 321
Lisa Borba McPherson added

Nothing terrifies you more than, "Let's all go around the room and say something interesting about ourselves." 

1,534 499
Carly BG added Being Told To "Smile"

It gets old. 

1,429 374
Being Regarded As a Snob or Aloof Because You're Quiet.

1,042 156
-1457002307135 added Overthinking Every Interaction

Introverts tend to overanalyze, meaning you can easily get lost in your head by examining everything far too much. 

1,913 897
Janice Thibault added Being Told You Are Too Sensitive.

Having different boundaries than others should be repsected. 

4,169 1,258
Jamie Lambert added

It's not that you don't want to spend time with them. You just desperately need a few hours to yourself. 

3,579 2,007
Jerry Cox added People You Barely Know Casually Touching You In Social Situations

Friendly hugs and shoulder pats may not seem like a big deal to many, but many introverts have a bigger than average space bubble. 

6,329 4,685
Being Called 'Shy' Just because you don't want to engage in small talk doesn't mean you are afraid to.

3,162 1,578
Andrea Bond added Trying to Ghost Out of a Party But Getting Caught On the Way Out

You're not trying to be rude. You just don't want to deal with all the hugs and goodbyes. 

3,383 1,572

1,164 635
RWSyn added People Assuming You're On Their Side In An Argument When You've Said Nothing

Silence doesn't imply you're secretly aligning with one party. You just don't like getting involved in drama. 

2,847 2,060
Lori Soilwhisperer Guenter added Surprise Parties And Surprises In General

Introverts need to prepare for social interaction and outings. For you, a surprise is more stressful than it is appreciated. 

989 421
Alisha Collins added Being Invited to Do Anything That Requires Leaving the House.

262 35
silentintrovert added Having To Repeat Yourself

It was stressful enough saying something the first time. 

563 155
Sara Baerlocher added

Introverts prefer specific types of social interaction. That doesn't mean they shun it. 

155 27
colleensacct added Being called out in a meeting to answer a question

all eyes turn to you...

174 46
Meetings At Work

Especially when you have to talk or give a presentation. 

302 88
Philip Foster added Returning To Work After a Long Vacation

Everyone hates returning from a vacation. But when socialization is already hard for you, getting back into the swing of daily interactions is extra exhausting. 

4,191 5,154
Being Called 'Intense' The drawback of loving only deeper, meaningful conversations.