thought provoking Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With  

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List Rules This is not a regular peeves list, please only vote if you are an introvert

Hi introverts! (You non-introverts don't have to read this, go back to being cheerful or chatting in elevators or whatever). Speaking as one of you, I think I can ask you this because I feel your pain in those social situations that seem to cause normal people no distress whatsoever. What's the worst? The absolute worst thing about your daily grind? The thing that makes you want to curl up under your desk or flatten yourself into the wallpaper in the hopes you will suddenly gain the powers of a chameleon? Vote on the things that make you wish you could turn invisible on command... and add the things I've missed. Rerank them in the order of worst to least worst, if you feel strongly enough about it!
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19,941 3,838
Not Enough Alone Time It's tough to live in an increasingly connected world when you need alone time to recharge.

18,408 6,455
Parties Full of Strangers Parties are a field of landmines: remembering names and casual conversation.

16,106 6,296
Networking Nothing feels more agonizing than a forced conversation for the sake of selling yourself.

16,434 6,839
Small Talk At the coffee machine or in an elevator, "How's it going?" are the most dreaded words in existence.

13,982 6,516
Meeting New People You probably won't remember their name AND have to make small talk because you don't know them well enough to have a real conversation.

14,796 5,837
clash1977 added Keeping in Touch With People You genuinely want to keep up with loved ones, but reaching out takes time and energy. 

13,437 6,209
Talking on the Phone For Any Reason What did introverts do before texting and email? 

11,538 4,605
Maryellen Elizabeth added Simultaneously Looking Forward To And Dreading A Fun Event A looming party/happy hour/celebration inspires dread and has you sweating.

13,279 6,451
Group Participation Having to work in forced interactive groups. Team-building exercises are your personal hell. 

12,576 5,298
People Who Can't Handle Silence Silence does not have to be filled all the time. Sometimes, you can have a natural lull in the conversation and it's ok.

12,357 5,133
People Trying to Talk To You When You Are Reading You brought the book specifically so no one would try to talk to you... 

11,800 6,470
Crowds You're not claustrophobic, but crowds mean casual interaction -- which is so hard.

11,585 5,820
Brief or Casual Encounters That Require Chit Chat It's small talk, but with your friends, not strangers. Turns out small talk is still extremely difficult even when, say, running into a good friend while at the grocery store. 

12,729 5,215
When People Ask "Are You Ok" Just Because You're Quiet Just because you're quiet doesn't mean there's something wrong.

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10,707 5,052
Being Told To 'Relax' And 'Be More Social' Because changing your natural personality is really that simple. 

7,090 2,185
Andrea Krause added Needing Validation But Hating Attention You need reassurance too, but compliments and praise mean an uncomfortable amount of attention. 

8,363 3,482
Being Ignored When You Do Talk, Because You're Too Quiet Just because you're soft spoken doesn't mean you have nothing to say. 

10,166 4,878
Never Remembering Names Not ever. It takes constant repetition and exposure to lock those names down.

9,487 4,410
AnneHartwigHoppers added People Who Can't Tolerate the Fact That You Do Things Differently Introversion is not a problem to be solved. 

7,797 3,331
Nicole Murdock added Last Minute Plan Changes That Alter Your Whole Day You need to emotionally prepare for social interaction. Changing things up last minute interferes. 

9,871 5,107
When Your Friends Invite More People Over A small gathering of people you love talking to has just been turned into an "upcoming event" on Facebook. 

Things Your Mother Told You... That She Was Right About

10,296 5,049
People Who Mistake Your Silence for Judging You're not aloof, and your are not judging -- most likely you are just scanning for the exit.

7,867 4,957
SarahLSnyder added Loud Noises You need your quiet time, and sirens, slamming doors, and loud music disrupt that. 

7,044 3,711
estevanmunguia added Having To Explain Your Introverted Qualities (Being Quiet, Being Flaky, Etc.) Having to constantly explain or rationalize your demeanor becomes a chore.

8,161 4,931
People Who Are Late When you are always on time, people being late means you have to endure awkwardly standing around.

5,265 1,525
Jerry Cox added When You're Having Down Time and Someone Comes Over to Speak to You Most of the time, you don't want to chat with a coworker on your lunch break. 

4,418 1,624
Allison Molloy added Having Thoughtful Pauses Interpreted Negatively You need time to think about your words and answer. This shouldn't be a bad thing. 

8,005 4,774
That Your Normal Face Is Called Resting Bitch Face Because you don't smile when you are thoughtful...

Things You Should Know How to Do Before You Turn 30

7,517 4,414
Having a Hard Time Caring About Things like Birthdays It's not that you don't love your friends and family, but birthdays, celebrations, and holidays make you nervous. 

2,738 969
Lisa Smith added Being Interrupted Because You Paused To Think Just because you took a second to think doesn't mean you were done talking. 

4,365 1,810
Jerry Cox added People Who Keep Talking After You Try To End A Conversation You try to give a polite "Goodbye" or "I'll see you tomorrow" to indicate you're trying to back out, but they don't take the hint. 

1,407 285
Lisa Borba McPherson added Breaking The Ice Exercises At Work Or School Nothing terrifies you more than, "Let's all go around the room and say something interesting about ourselves." 

1,182 330
Being Regarded As a Snob or Aloof Because You're Quiet.

1,686 832
Janice Thibault added Being Told You Are Too Sensitive. Having different boundaries than others should be repsected. 

1,265 449
Carly BG added Being Told To "Smile" It gets old. 

Famous People You Didn't Know Were Married to Each Other

3,917 1,224
Jamie Lambert added Waiting For Roommates Or Household Members To Go To Bed So You Can Wind Down It's not that you don't want to spend time with them. You just desperately need a few hours to yourself. 

6,143 4,616
Being Called 'Shy' Just because you don't want to engage in small talk doesn't mean you are afraid to.

3,354 1,957
Jerry Cox added People You Barely Know Casually Touching You In Social Situations Friendly hugs and shoulder pats may not seem like a big deal to many, but many introverts have a bigger than average space bubble. 

732 130
-1457002307135 added Overthinking Every Interaction Introverts tend to overanalyze, meaning you can easily get lost in your head by examining everything far too much. 

2,973 1,528
Andrea Bond added Trying to Ghost Out of a Party But Getting Caught On the Way Out You're not trying to be rude. You just don't want to deal with all the hugs and goodbyes. 

3,174 1,551

1,006 575
RWSyn added People Assuming You're On Their Side In An Argument When You've Said Nothing Silence doesn't imply you're secretly aligning with one party. You just don't like getting involved in drama. 

29 Things Worth Spending a Little Extra On

2,666 2,001
Lori Soilwhisperer Guenter added Surprise Parties And Surprises In General Introverts need to prepare for social interaction and outings. For you, a surprise is more stressful than it is appreciated. 

780 371
Alisha Collins added Being Invited to Do Anything That Requires Leaving the House.

363 133
Sara Baerlocher added People Conflating Introversion With Being Anti-Social Introverts prefer specific types of social interaction. That doesn't mean they shun it. 

4,060 5,088
Being Called 'Intense' The drawback of loving only deeper, meaningful conversations.

442 267
-1457002307135 added Not Getting Invited Because You Seem Too Quiet Or Shy While social interaction can make you anxious, that doesn't mean you hate it. You do want to spend time with others on occasion, so an invite is appreciated. 

877 570
Sue Ridgley Poage added Meeting A Friend Out And Having to Walk Inside the Bar/Restaurant Alone Sitting alone in a public place may lead to unwanted interaction with strangers. You need a trusted friend for security. 

745 718
Darlene Cruz Vergara added People Talking To You While You're Trying to Eat Dinner Sometimes, you prefer to eat meals alone and dinner conversation can be stressful. 

3,210 4,789
CassandraBeckim added No One Comes To The Events You Plan When you're not a social butterfly, you sometimes fly under the radar when you do want to reach out and interact with others.