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Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With

Updated August 28, 2020 381.1k votes 38.1k voters 275.5k views61 items

List RulesThis is not a regular peeves list, please only vote if you are an introvert

Hi introverts! (You non-introverts don't have to read this, go back to being cheerful or chatting in elevators or whatever). Speaking as one of you, I think I can ask you this because I feel your pain in those social situations that seem to cause normal people no distress whatsoever. What's the worst? The absolute worst thing about your daily grind? The thing that makes you want to curl up under your desk or flatten yourself into the wallpaper in the hopes you will suddenly gain the powers of a chameleon? Vote on the things that make you wish you could turn invisible on command... and add the things I've missed. Rerank them in the order of worst to least worst, if you feel strongly enough about it!
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    Not Enough Alone Time

    It's tough to live in an increasingly connected world when you need alone time to recharge.

  • 2
    2,108
    314

    Nothing terrifies you more than, "Let's all go around the room and say something interesting about ourselves." 

  • 3
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    -1457002307135 added

    Overthinking Every Interaction

    Introverts tend to overanalyze, meaning you can easily get lost in your head by examining everything far too much. 

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    4,007

    Parties Full of Strangers

    Parties are a field of landmines: remembering names and casual conversation.
  • 5
    4,281
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    Jerry Cox added

    When You're Having Down Time and Someone Comes Over to Speak to You

    Most of the time, you don't want to chat with a coworker on your lunch break. 

  • 6
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    3,878

    Networking

    Nothing feels more agonizing than a forced conversation for the sake of selling yourself.
  • 7
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    1,550
    Andrea Krause added

    Needing Validation But Hating Attention

    You need reassurance too, but compliments and praise mean an uncomfortable amount of attention. 

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    85
    Christine McNulty Saxton added

    People with loud voices

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    silentintrovert added

    Having To Repeat Yourself

    It was stressful enough saying something the first time. 

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    69
    Down in Florida added

    Having to Participate in Icebreaker Activities

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    3,651
    clash1977 added

    Keeping in Touch With People

    You genuinely want to keep up with loved ones, but reaching out takes time and energy. 

  • 12
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    401

    Being Regarded As a Snob or Aloof Because You're Quiet.

  • 13

    Introverts prefer specific types of social interaction. That doesn't mean they shun it. 

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    72
    Greg Kootstra added

    Starting a new job or class.

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    Carly BG added

    Being Told To "Smile"

    It gets old. 

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    colleensacct added

    Being called out in a meeting to answer a question.

    all eyes turn to you...

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    2,857
    Maryellen Elizabeth added

    Simultaneously Looking Forward To And Dreading A Fun Event

    A looming party/happy hour/celebration inspires dread and has you sweating.
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    Lisa Smith added

    Being Interrupted Because You Paused To Think

    Just because you took a second to think doesn't mean you were done talking. 

  • 19

    It's not that you don't want to spend time with them. You just desperately need a few hours to yourself. 

  • 20
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    3,212

    When People Ask "Are You Ok" Just Because You're Quiet

    Just because you're quiet doesn't mean there's something wrong.

  • 21
    11,412
    4,256

    Small Talk

    At the coffee machine or in an elevator, "How's it going?" are the most dreaded words in existence.
  • 22
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    1,101
    Allison Molloy added

    Having Thoughtful Pauses Interpreted Negatively

    You need time to think about your words and answer. This shouldn't be a bad thing. 

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    1,148
    Jerry Cox added

    People Who Keep Talking After You Try To End A Conversation

    You try to give a polite "Goodbye" or "I'll see you tomorrow" to indicate you're trying to back out, but they don't take the hint. 

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    3,172

    People Trying to Talk To You When You Are Reading

    You brought the book specifically so no one would try to talk to you... 

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    Nicole Murdock added

    Last Minute Plan Changes That Alter Your Whole Day

    You need to emotionally prepare for social interaction. Changing things up last minute interferes. 

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List Rules: This is not a regular peeves list, please only vote if you are an introvert