culture Things That Introverts Have The Hardest Time With  

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List Rules This is not a regular peeves list, please only vote if you are an introvert

Hi introverts! (You non-introverts don't have to read this, go back to being cheerful or chatting in elevators or whatever). Speaking as one of you, I think I can ask you this because I feel your pain in those social situations that seem to cause normal people no distress whatsoever. What's the worst? The absolute worst thing about your daily grind? The thing that makes you want to curl up under your desk or flatten yourself into the wallpaper in the hopes you will suddenly gain the powers of a chameleon? Vote on the things that make you wish you could turn invisible on command... and add the things I've missed. Rerank them in the order of worst to least worst, if you feel strongly enough about it!
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19,709 3,818
Not Enough Alone Time You neeeeed alone time to recharge.

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18,201 6,418
Parties Full of Strangers Parties are a field of landmines: remembering names and casual conversation.

15,912 6,256
Networking Nothing feels more agonizing than a forced conversation for the sake of selling yourself.

16,230 6,795
Small Talk At the coffee machine or in an elevator, "How's it going?" are the most dreaded words in existence.

13,823 6,467
Meeting New People You probably won't remember their name AND have to make small talk because you don't know them well enough to have a real conversation.

14,621 5,793
clash1977 added Keeping in Touch With People

13,267 6,166
Talking on the Phone For Any Reason What did introverts do before texting and email? Did we all just curl up and die?

13,118 6,410
Group Participation Having to work in forced interactive groups. Team-building exercises might as well be called "Hell".

6,557 1,041
Lindsay Şoricelul-Tău Belton added Simultaneously Looking Forward to a Fun Event and Dreading It.

12,197 5,059
People Trying to Talk To You When You Are Reading You brought the book specifically so no one would try to talk to you!

11,788 5,415
People Who Can't Handle Silence Silence does not have to be filled all the time. Sometimes you can have a natural lull in the conversation and it's ok.

11,665 6,435
Crowds You're not claustrophobic, but crowds mean casual interaction -- which is so hard.

11,467 5,786
Brief or Casual Encounters That Require Chit Chat It's small talk, but with your friends, not strangers. Turns out small talk is still extremely difficult even if it's with your closest friends.

12,585 5,196
When People ask you "Are You Ok" Just Because You're Quiet Just because I'm quiet doesn't mean there's something wrong.

10,584 5,040
Being Told To 'Relax' and 'Be More Social' I can't relax when I have to think up random words to say to fill the silence that other people can't handle.

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8,239 3,457
Lack of attention when you are talking

10,070 4,835
Never Remembering Names Not ever. It takes constant repetition and exposure to lock those names down.

6,978 2,160
Andrea Krause added Needing Validation/praise but Hating Attention

9,378 4,395
AnneHartwigHoppers added People Who Can't Tolerate the Fact That I Do Things Differently

7,681 3,310
Nicole Murdock added Last Minute Plan Changes That Alter Your Whole Day

9,768 5,082
When Your Friends Invite More People Over A small gathering of people you love talking to has just been turned into an "upcoming event".

10,205 5,029
People Who Mistake Your Silence for Judging We are not aloof, and we are not judging -- most likely we are just scanning for the exit.

7,774 4,931
SarahLSnyder added Loud Noises

6,946 3,687
estevanmunguia added Talking About Yourself Having to constantly explain or rationalize your demeanor becomes a chore.

8,081 4,901
People Who Are Late When you are always on time, people being late means you have to endure awkwardly standing around.

8,083 4,592
Upcoming Events A looming party/happy hour/celebration inspires dread and has you sweating.

6,639 3,014
Maryellen Elizabeth added Dreading Upcoming Appointments

5,174 1,516
Jerry Cox added That Feeling of Dread That Comes Whenever You're Having Down Time and You See That Someone's Coming Over to Speak to You.

4,348 1,607
Allison Molloy added Needing Time to Consider Our Answer and Having the Thoughtful Pause Interpreted Negatively

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7,922 4,756
That Your Normal Face Is Called Resting Bitch Face Because you don't smile when you are thoughtful...

7,445 4,384
Having a Hard Time Caring About Things like Birthdays It's not that we don't love you, but we don't care about things like birthdays and can never remember them.

1,968 612
Di4homes added People Who Crowd My Space... Umm... Stop That People!!! Like in a Line a Grocery Store... or Meetings Where the Chairs Are So Close I Can't Breath...

2,665 956
Lisa Smith added Being Interrupted Because You Paused to Think

4,666 1,682
People Who Mistake Your Silence As Being Anything Other Than Being Content

4,304 1,800
Jerry Cox added People Who Insist on Talking after You've Signaled that Your Part in the Conversation Is Over. You make a non-committal, typically conversation-ending remark and they keep on talking.  You turn to leave, and they're still talking.  You say, 'Good-bye' or 'Goodnight' and THEY JUST WON'T STOP TALKING!

4,217 1,821
Carol Murchie added Others accuse you of being "negative" if you aren't immediately over the moon about every idea they throw at you.

1,215 409
Being Interrupted When I'm Clearly Trying to Read.

1,321 271

1,620 820
Janice Thibault added Being Told You Are Too Sensitive.

6,081 4,600
Being Called 'Shy' Just because you don't want to engage in small talk doesn't mean you are afraid to.

3,293 1,942
Jerry Cox added People You Barely Know Who Hug. Or Put a Friendly Hand On Your Shoulder/Arm. Or Touch You in Any Way.

1,194 439
Carly BG added Being Told 'smile'

3,850 1,217

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3,607 2,044
JoLynn LeGault added Seeing a Person You're Interested in and Immediately Picking Apart All of Your Flaws, Thereby Causing You to Avoid Said Person Altogether

1,120 319
Being Regarded As a Snob or Aloof Because You're Quiet.

1,527 584
Laurie Herbert added People (extroverts) Who Don't Learn What Being an Introvert Means.

2,929 1,513
Andrea Bond added Trying to Ghost Out of a Party but Getting Caught On the Way Out.

661 123
-1457002307135 added Getting "Lost in Your Own Head" As You Over-think Anything.

2,623 1,982
Lori Soilwhisperer Guenter added Surprise Parties. Actually, Surprises of Just About Any Kind.

3,125 1,545