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Tips for Having Friends with Benefits 

Rachel Green
Updated April 4, 2019 1.9k votes 433 voters 89.2k views 9 items

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We all have good-looking friends. We've all taken a look or two at them here or there. And sometimes those hot friends just happen to be a little more flirtatious than usual. Before you know it, you're knockin' boots, having a blast, and the phrase comes up: friends with benefits (FWB). First thing to know: This situation will not work with just any friend. We suggest you follow these FWB rules.

How can you be friends with benefits? It's a thin line to walk. How do you remain friends afterward? Can you even be friends? Here are all the tips and tricks to lead you through a successful FWB relationship. Vote up which actions are best to take to help drag you through to come out unscathed on the other side. 

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Act Normal In Public

None of those cutesy, flirty, kissy shenanigans can go on in public. Can you imagine all the backlash you're going to get when you hand-feed your FWB some spinach and artichoke dip? And just when you realize what you're doing, with your friends gawking at you, mouths agape, your hand finds a new trajectory, nearly missing Friend McGee's mouth and smearing dip all over their cheek, while you quickly try to cover up with a lame story about shooing a fly off their face.

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There's No Room For Jealousy

See your friend hooking up with that hot dude who's more attractive than the Old Spice guy with water running down that silky skin? Yeah, you most certainly do, and your friend's eating it up, one spoonful at a time. 

But, you're just friends. So, whatever, right?

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Neediness Is Not Attractive

It doesn't matter what gender you are; no one wants a clingy, needy, attention-obsessed person.

Do you think your FWB is going to appreciate the 45 texts you send her every day while you try to make "casual" conversation with your FWB and outline your entire day? Depending on how exclusive you are, probably not.

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Secrets Don't Make Friends, But They Keep Friends

Want to come out of your libidinous rendezvous unscathed? Don't tell a soul. Not your best friend, not your mom — no one. No one can know. Sure, they'll promise they won't tell anyone, but they will because they're humans.

No one can know; no one can keep a secret forever.

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