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21 Things Not to Say to a Trans Person

Updated February 27, 2020 32.7k votes 2.9k voters 714.3k views21 items

With the explosion of interest over Caitlyn Jenner, and the rise of trans celebrities like Laverne Cox and Janet Mock, transgender visibility is at an all-time high. But what happens when you encounter a transgender person? Are there questions you should never ask a transgender person? You've likely met many trans people and have never even realized it.

This list is here to help you out. There are plenty of things you should never say, words you should never use, and questions you should never ask when you're around a transgender person. Just because you don't know all the rules yet doesn't mean you're a jerk, but a little preparation goes a long way toward making sure you don't accidentally look like one in the future. The most important thing to remember is that trans people want to be treated and spoken to like anybody else — with friendliness and respect.

Below are a few questions and topics of conversation you should probably avoid when speaking to a transgender person — especially someone you just met, or haven't had the chance to get to know very well.