What's it like to be a male escort? It's often less thrilling than you might assume. Although escorts are typically associated with sex work, and sex is a frequent part of the gig, many escorts liken their job to that of a therapist. Stories from male escorts describe how many clients are looking for emotional as well as physical connections, even if it's only for a few hours.
Some male escorts have long-term clients who are more like sugar daddies, who pay for clothing, personal bills, and gifts. But many work on a short-term basis, trading time for cash. And thanks to the Internet, you can read about their experiences. Male escorts describe their jobs on Reddit, sharing everything from tales about men and women to how much they get paid. So, if you've ever wondered what being a male escort is really like, check out these true stories from the male escorts of Reddit.
There To Help
"I didn't have any off-the-wall sexual requests. One client did request I wear her passed husband's favorite watch and tie while we were out on our dates, that didn't strike me as very weird though. More something she did to enhance the experience for herself, made it easier for her to feel connected to me. Sometimes she'd talk to me like I was her husband back when they were young (i.e. I remember the first time you saw me), I'd keep quiet and stroke her arm when she went like that. I felt like she had some loss she needed to work through, I was afraid of speaking when she'd reminisce because I didn't want to ruin it for her.
She was in her mid-40s, so it wasn't like she was 'gone.' Had a significant loss and needed someone to help her through it, and I was there."
The Lucky Escort
"I worked as an escort for about 2-3 years in a big diverse city so my story may be a little different. My price was fairly high as I was young (19) and in really good shape. My clients tended to be wealthy and married in their mid 30s-50s, either curious or closeted. I occasionally would get the nervous virgin or the guy who never tried to top before or the guy who wanted to explore fetishes or other sexual exploration in a safe environment free from judgment.
I also had a very diverse clientele. I'd say half were white men and the rest were from very traditional and religious families. I had a lot of Chinese international students who were stuck with facing an arranged marriage back home or Middle Eastern men worried about their faith and families.
I think the biggest stereotype for clients is that they are sexual deviants, disrespectful or promiscuous. Keep in mind, there is a huge negative stigma attached to being with an escort, if anything most of the men I was with were very careful not to offend me. Also, we didn't always have sex. Sometimes we'd just talk, go on a date, watch a movie or just cuddle.
I feel like I am more lucky than most male escorts. Prostitution is legal here and the brothel I worked at was run by an older couple who would cook us food, help us find stable work and get those of us on drugs off drugs. It certainly wasn't ideal though and I'm glad to move on, but sex work for me was not as negative as a lot of people assume it to be."
A Social Experiment
"I had a brief stint in male escorting for a little bit. I decided that I wouldn't service dudes because that's my primary attraction and I wanted it to be all business. Most of my clients were married, older women who were teachers or retired ones. I did it the old fashioned way through word of mouth, starting with getting contacts through a family friend who got me into the 'lonely teacher' circle. All of them were from the next city over and I didn't use my real name because I also decided I wouldn't service anyone from my home town for obvious reasons.
The few times I did this, it was interesting as a social experiment of sorts. You soon realize that you are not only providing the service of sexual pleasure, but mental well being as well. The majority of them were paying me to spend time with me in all actuality. I was their make-shift therapist, but more convenient and slightly cheaper.
One memorable night, I let one of my clients cry to me over Italian comfort food about how her husband didn't feel for her anymore. On other occasion, a client insisted that I stay afterwards and watch a movie with her for an extra $100. I would usually give them a package of $300-$350 if I knew them a bit better and stayed a while.
All in all, it was a good, rewarding experience. I would do it again if I had time, but it can wear on you if they start to rely on you for more than just temporary happiness."
The Fetish Club
"I was a male escort/gigolo for a year or so, but I was a bit of a special case...
I was on-call for two brothels (prostitution is legal in my country) although they were effectively the same brothel just in different parts of the city (same owners, girls would work at both, etc.). They would call me for situations where a guy wanted to try a MMF threesome with a girl, or sometimes a couple would come in and want a girl and a guy to play with, but that only happened rarely. This led me into working with a more specialized fetish club/brothel.
I worked with a particular girl most of the time, and most of the business were dudes who got off on control, sometimes they were on the opposite side of 1 way mirror, sometimes they were in the room with us. Basically they would sit there and order us to do things to each other, sometimes vanilla, sometimes it'd be specific instructions on how I was supposed to lick her toes.
Most of my clientele were out of shape dudes, generally over 40. For the ones at the brothel rather than the fetish club, they were 99.9% of the time drunk and/or high and they were mostly hung a bit below average.
While the fetish club had strict rules and costs about touching or not touching... touching was more $$, quite a few of the clients who I don't think were actually even particularly Bi let alone gay, would want to have a play with my equipment, not in a sexual way either, just mostly curiousity as I'm pretty long and thick, and I guess there aren't many other situations you can be in that you can just play with another man's penis without there being other 'aspects' associated with it.
Was a pretty dark part of my life for personal reasons, but had a lot of fun partying with the girls after work, and those girls party HAAAARD."