Living

Things You Wouldn’t Expect Are Great For Relationships  

Eric Luis
123 votes 17 voters 12 items

List Rules Vote up the moves that have made you feel closer to your significant other.

Fostering a great relationship is hard work, but it's both rewarding and satisfying when you do. While there are tons of relationship books out there about communication and love languages, there are some lesser-known strategies for building a better relationship that seem to have gone under the radar. These suggestions might sound strange or counterintuitive at first, but sometimes it's the less obvious advice that can have the greatest impact.

There's no one secret in love; rather, dozens of individual choices can all add up to a healthier relationship. Everyone is different and not every piece of advice will be right for your relationship, but these suggestions are meant to help guide couples looking to connect on a deeper level. You may want to roll your eyes at a few of these, but you might be surprised by what could happen if you open yourself up to this unexpected relationship advice.

1
Doing Chores Together

Couples who work together stay together. At least, that's what this study from the succinctly named German Panel Analysis of Intimate Relationships and Family Dynamics determined. Researchers analyzed the habits of 1,338 couples and discovered that couples who share the chore load report higher levels of sexual satisfaction in their relationships.

The study focused on male contribution to the workload specifically, finding a positive correlation between male involvement in chores and increased romantic satisfaction.

Does this make you feel the love?
2
Touching While Sleeping

According to researchers with the Edinburgh International Science Festival, being in close proximity to your partner while sleeping is a good indicator that you're in a healthy relationship. You don't have to be full-on spooning either - just a light touch is enough to get a sense of your intimacy levels.

If you're part of a couple that doesn't sleep near each other at all, you may want to consider closing the gap.

Does this make you feel the love?
3
Gossiping About Other Couples

Most people believe gossip to be a negative thing, but not Dr. Jennifer Bosson, a professor of psychology at the University of South Florida. In fact, she believes that gossiping about other couples can actually bring a couple closer together. This is because of the secretive nature of gossip. 

Gossip only occurs between people who trust each other. If you're complaining to your partner about someone else, you are trusting them not to tell that person what you said. There's an intimacy involved with sharing secrets, so it's not surprising that lots of couples enjoy breaking down and analyzing the actions of other couples. In addition, pointing out the flaws of other couples often leads people to appreciate the positive aspects of their own relationship.

Does this make you feel the love?
4
Plucking Each Other’s Hairs, Examining Each Other’s Moles, And Other Personal Hygiene Tasks

At the beginning of most relationships, people tend to do everything they can to hide any little imperfection they may have. As relationships mature and people become more comfortable with each other, this can change. In fact, there are tons of couples who become so comfortable with each other that they enjoy partaking in intimate grooming activities. These include popping pimples, plucking unseemly hairs, and all sorts of other tasks.

Engaging in grooming activities releases a rush of dopamine into your brain, a chemical which can make you feel happy. Of course, just the thought of popping a zit is enough to send some people running for the hills. If you're plucking your partner's chin hairs however, there's a good chance that you are very close to them.

Does this make you feel the love?